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Type of support? Or do I need it? What is missing in me?

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I see a lot of posts, in fact, most of the posts are related to parents asking what they should do to help support their child at home to make it a comfortable and safe environment and other ways they could help etc but I rarely see anything like what parents could do at home to support their grown up child if you get what I mean?

Like me, I'm 22 and nearlly 23, in a apprenticeship, at home living with my parents, for some reason, I just feel sad or just emotionless when I'm at home, I'm always like this mood for some reason, I'm depressed I think, or stress, but it can't be? I don't know why I feel like this, I should feel really happy to be this lucky, having a well paid apprenticeship, got aspergers and OCD so it's extremely difficult to cope with and it is really difficult to sucessfully get a job and yet I have one, got lots of money, can get what I want, workplace is so local and I don't need to spend any money on transport.

Is there anything my parents should be doing at home to make it better for me? I feel like they have done all they can, I still find talking to them really stressful for some reason, I rarely every talk to any of them that often, I just like to be left alone all day when I'm at home. I have my own safe room environment, love spending time in there on my own all day, weekends I'm mainly in my room all day, after work I'm in my room again.

What is actually missing in my life? I know I should feel happy but why do I always feel emotionless? I have about 2 close friends, well.. they were close friends, not anymore though ever since my close friend from high school now has a girlfriend, he is about to become a father, his personaility has changed completly, he's matured to quickly and I HATE it, I still have my mind as a kid, I love my video games, love cartoons, love nearlly everything a kid likes and I'm happy for who I am.

Is it the social side what's making me sad? or emotionless.... but then it can't be! I love being on my own, all my life I have barely any friends or I never seemed to "fit in", now I'm 22, I am always alone all the time, I never like talking to people, yes I got a few people at work who I talk to and have a laugh, but in the end, I always feel I am different and the only reason why we even talk to eachother is because we are all in the same office!

That is why... my best friends are when I get home from work, entering my room then I see my laptop, Blu Ray collections, all my game collections, my Nintendo DS, PSP, PS Vita, PS3, PS4 all the other stuff.

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  • Hi Hawk256,

    For me friendships are a bit of a 'catch 22'. I don't really want to talk to people or socialise and therefore don't develop friendships.I do have a couple of friends that I see infrequently and a partner who I have lived with for the past 15 years. I don't feel inclined to develop any more friendships. Making friends is not something I want to do but through a combiation luck, drink, loneliness and circumstance I have overcome the unpleasant process of establishing relationships that exist in a way I find comfortable.

    I still love being on my own lots and it bothers me if I don't get time to myself. I am glad however that I have my partner. New relationships do seem pointless and unrewarding and everyone just seems like a blank but once a good relationship is established they can be (almost) as nice as doing the things you like in your own company. ;)

    'I always feel I am different and the only reason why we even talk to eachother is because we are all in the same office!'.

    There is nothing so wrong with that. I suppose any relationship is based on sharing common factor. Sometimes it is a shared interest and sometimes it is a shared circumstance such as a job. Your friend who now has a girlfriend (pregnant) does mean that there is something that you no longer have in common. Are there however still other factors you have in common? eg a history together, location, shared interests?

    Do you want any other friends? There are plenty of people who have similar ineterests such as gaming, dvd's and computers. It might sound cold but friends are useful and have their plus points. I wouldn't ever want to give up all my 'me time' and I wouldn't even know how to go about making new friends but I am glad it happened. i still question the validity of the relationships I do have but without them who would  play chess with ;)

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  • Hi Hawk256,

    For me friendships are a bit of a 'catch 22'. I don't really want to talk to people or socialise and therefore don't develop friendships.I do have a couple of friends that I see infrequently and a partner who I have lived with for the past 15 years. I don't feel inclined to develop any more friendships. Making friends is not something I want to do but through a combiation luck, drink, loneliness and circumstance I have overcome the unpleasant process of establishing relationships that exist in a way I find comfortable.

    I still love being on my own lots and it bothers me if I don't get time to myself. I am glad however that I have my partner. New relationships do seem pointless and unrewarding and everyone just seems like a blank but once a good relationship is established they can be (almost) as nice as doing the things you like in your own company. ;)

    'I always feel I am different and the only reason why we even talk to eachother is because we are all in the same office!'.

    There is nothing so wrong with that. I suppose any relationship is based on sharing common factor. Sometimes it is a shared interest and sometimes it is a shared circumstance such as a job. Your friend who now has a girlfriend (pregnant) does mean that there is something that you no longer have in common. Are there however still other factors you have in common? eg a history together, location, shared interests?

    Do you want any other friends? There are plenty of people who have similar ineterests such as gaming, dvd's and computers. It might sound cold but friends are useful and have their plus points. I wouldn't ever want to give up all my 'me time' and I wouldn't even know how to go about making new friends but I am glad it happened. i still question the validity of the relationships I do have but without them who would  play chess with ;)

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