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Type of support? Or do I need it? What is missing in me?

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I see a lot of posts, in fact, most of the posts are related to parents asking what they should do to help support their child at home to make it a comfortable and safe environment and other ways they could help etc but I rarely see anything like what parents could do at home to support their grown up child if you get what I mean?

Like me, I'm 22 and nearlly 23, in a apprenticeship, at home living with my parents, for some reason, I just feel sad or just emotionless when I'm at home, I'm always like this mood for some reason, I'm depressed I think, or stress, but it can't be? I don't know why I feel like this, I should feel really happy to be this lucky, having a well paid apprenticeship, got aspergers and OCD so it's extremely difficult to cope with and it is really difficult to sucessfully get a job and yet I have one, got lots of money, can get what I want, workplace is so local and I don't need to spend any money on transport.

Is there anything my parents should be doing at home to make it better for me? I feel like they have done all they can, I still find talking to them really stressful for some reason, I rarely every talk to any of them that often, I just like to be left alone all day when I'm at home. I have my own safe room environment, love spending time in there on my own all day, weekends I'm mainly in my room all day, after work I'm in my room again.

What is actually missing in my life? I know I should feel happy but why do I always feel emotionless? I have about 2 close friends, well.. they were close friends, not anymore though ever since my close friend from high school now has a girlfriend, he is about to become a father, his personaility has changed completly, he's matured to quickly and I HATE it, I still have my mind as a kid, I love my video games, love cartoons, love nearlly everything a kid likes and I'm happy for who I am.

Is it the social side what's making me sad? or emotionless.... but then it can't be! I love being on my own, all my life I have barely any friends or I never seemed to "fit in", now I'm 22, I am always alone all the time, I never like talking to people, yes I got a few people at work who I talk to and have a laugh, but in the end, I always feel I am different and the only reason why we even talk to eachother is because we are all in the same office!

That is why... my best friends are when I get home from work, entering my room then I see my laptop, Blu Ray collections, all my game collections, my Nintendo DS, PSP, PS Vita, PS3, PS4 all the other stuff.

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  • Hi,

    I believe Longman has covered quite a few valid points.

    I have a son with very similar patterns as yourself. He finds familiarity and his game comforts very calming and reassuring. Pushing ourselves outside our comfort zone does not come so easy, however. Familiarity represents safety for some, but safety doesn't always allow for growth of either the mind or the soul. Some are content with that, others yearn for more as they see friends move forward with their lives and that can leave them feeling unhappy.

    At 22 I was much like you. Alone in my flat and content not to extend myself, yet I knew I was unhappy. I then began some low level charity work and studying a bit in the evenings and things began to change. It took tremedous effort on my part, but then we only get out of life what we are prepared to put in I guess.

    Now of course I've dedicated my life to caring for my boys, but i still need a life beyond what i do as a mum of children with Aspergers.

    I think you have a very health feeling towards how you feel. You are looking for answers yourself and thats a positive step forward too. Try some of the suggestions above, you'd be surprized how one small change can make a big difference to your mood. Remember, contrary to what we are led to believe, happiness is not all about material things. 

    “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. It is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”  Wink

    Good Luck,

    Coogy.xx

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  • Hi,

    I believe Longman has covered quite a few valid points.

    I have a son with very similar patterns as yourself. He finds familiarity and his game comforts very calming and reassuring. Pushing ourselves outside our comfort zone does not come so easy, however. Familiarity represents safety for some, but safety doesn't always allow for growth of either the mind or the soul. Some are content with that, others yearn for more as they see friends move forward with their lives and that can leave them feeling unhappy.

    At 22 I was much like you. Alone in my flat and content not to extend myself, yet I knew I was unhappy. I then began some low level charity work and studying a bit in the evenings and things began to change. It took tremedous effort on my part, but then we only get out of life what we are prepared to put in I guess.

    Now of course I've dedicated my life to caring for my boys, but i still need a life beyond what i do as a mum of children with Aspergers.

    I think you have a very health feeling towards how you feel. You are looking for answers yourself and thats a positive step forward too. Try some of the suggestions above, you'd be surprized how one small change can make a big difference to your mood. Remember, contrary to what we are led to believe, happiness is not all about material things. 

    “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. It is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”  Wink

    Good Luck,

    Coogy.xx

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