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Type of support? Or do I need it? What is missing in me?

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I see a lot of posts, in fact, most of the posts are related to parents asking what they should do to help support their child at home to make it a comfortable and safe environment and other ways they could help etc but I rarely see anything like what parents could do at home to support their grown up child if you get what I mean?

Like me, I'm 22 and nearlly 23, in a apprenticeship, at home living with my parents, for some reason, I just feel sad or just emotionless when I'm at home, I'm always like this mood for some reason, I'm depressed I think, or stress, but it can't be? I don't know why I feel like this, I should feel really happy to be this lucky, having a well paid apprenticeship, got aspergers and OCD so it's extremely difficult to cope with and it is really difficult to sucessfully get a job and yet I have one, got lots of money, can get what I want, workplace is so local and I don't need to spend any money on transport.

Is there anything my parents should be doing at home to make it better for me? I feel like they have done all they can, I still find talking to them really stressful for some reason, I rarely every talk to any of them that often, I just like to be left alone all day when I'm at home. I have my own safe room environment, love spending time in there on my own all day, weekends I'm mainly in my room all day, after work I'm in my room again.

What is actually missing in my life? I know I should feel happy but why do I always feel emotionless? I have about 2 close friends, well.. they were close friends, not anymore though ever since my close friend from high school now has a girlfriend, he is about to become a father, his personaility has changed completly, he's matured to quickly and I HATE it, I still have my mind as a kid, I love my video games, love cartoons, love nearlly everything a kid likes and I'm happy for who I am.

Is it the social side what's making me sad? or emotionless.... but then it can't be! I love being on my own, all my life I have barely any friends or I never seemed to "fit in", now I'm 22, I am always alone all the time, I never like talking to people, yes I got a few people at work who I talk to and have a laugh, but in the end, I always feel I am different and the only reason why we even talk to eachother is because we are all in the same office!

That is why... my best friends are when I get home from work, entering my room then I see my laptop, Blu Ray collections, all my game collections, my Nintendo DS, PSP, PS Vita, PS3, PS4 all the other stuff.

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  • You can certainly find from reading fiction or biographies (or poetry) that most people NTs as well as people on the spectrum, experience a sense of incompleteness or emptiness.

    For NTs the pressures of the workplace, raising a family and engaging in complex social interchanges in all directions leaves little room for thinking. But they still complain of emptiness, lack of purpose and lack of fulfilment.

    Part of this may be the influence of media - people in films, adverts, lives of pop singers, travel programmes etc etc all expand our potential perception of life experience. Go back a few generations and you find most people stayed in the same town or village all their lives, never went anywhere else even for a holiday, and did the same routine job (six days a week, and because Sunday was church, went there once or twice or read the bible at home). With no other expectations, did they, I wonder, have the same emptiness? The writers of their day were mostly the lazy rich who had nothing to do all day but sit in their drawing rooms being waited on.

    People with autism may not have a job, or have a fairly routine short-term occupation that they can get in current circumstances. So that wont be fulfilling. They likely have very little social life, so that leaves big gaps. They aren't likely to be raising a familiy and may find it difficult to connect with family. So there are going to be many opportunities in the day to comtemplate feeling empty and unfulfilled.

    However there are forms of socialisation out there that are low intensity social interaction. Join a rambling club, go on organised coachtrips (where bar the inevitable do-gooders who feel you shouldn't sit alone, you can keep your interactions low), join various societies where you can share in activities without having to socialise, get involved in committees and charity work etc etc.

    And you can be constructive in finding things to do on your own, and generating more variety in things you do on your own.

    Retired people often find it difficult to keep active, especially as work provided their main circle of friends. To survive with intact wits you have to keep yourself busy.

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  • You can certainly find from reading fiction or biographies (or poetry) that most people NTs as well as people on the spectrum, experience a sense of incompleteness or emptiness.

    For NTs the pressures of the workplace, raising a family and engaging in complex social interchanges in all directions leaves little room for thinking. But they still complain of emptiness, lack of purpose and lack of fulfilment.

    Part of this may be the influence of media - people in films, adverts, lives of pop singers, travel programmes etc etc all expand our potential perception of life experience. Go back a few generations and you find most people stayed in the same town or village all their lives, never went anywhere else even for a holiday, and did the same routine job (six days a week, and because Sunday was church, went there once or twice or read the bible at home). With no other expectations, did they, I wonder, have the same emptiness? The writers of their day were mostly the lazy rich who had nothing to do all day but sit in their drawing rooms being waited on.

    People with autism may not have a job, or have a fairly routine short-term occupation that they can get in current circumstances. So that wont be fulfilling. They likely have very little social life, so that leaves big gaps. They aren't likely to be raising a familiy and may find it difficult to connect with family. So there are going to be many opportunities in the day to comtemplate feeling empty and unfulfilled.

    However there are forms of socialisation out there that are low intensity social interaction. Join a rambling club, go on organised coachtrips (where bar the inevitable do-gooders who feel you shouldn't sit alone, you can keep your interactions low), join various societies where you can share in activities without having to socialise, get involved in committees and charity work etc etc.

    And you can be constructive in finding things to do on your own, and generating more variety in things you do on your own.

    Retired people often find it difficult to keep active, especially as work provided their main circle of friends. To survive with intact wits you have to keep yourself busy.

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