When masturbation is boring

This is where having a second person in one's sexual relationship(s) really starts to shine...

For some reason, "Traditional" sexual mores have become very much denigraded in the media, yet actually for most people, a monogamous hetereosexual relationship delivers the most satisfaction. 

Obtaining what I want in life, I see as a skill. As I got good at it I learned that wanting the right things for the right reasons is WAY more important a skill to have if you want to be happy... I found that this applies to sex as much as anything else.

For some inexplicable reason people tell me things, they always have, so I know a great deal about other peoples private lives first hand, and over the last sixty years I've integrated all those sexual and other stories I've listened to, and it paints a VERY different picture of sex, and love to that which we are exposed to in the media.

If you are bored of masturbation, then based on what I think I know, you are ready to go and find a partner! And in this world rigt now, that's incredibly difficult...

Yet portrayed as such a simple thing. Getting a satiisfactory sexual partner for me has always involved a world of compromise, of bending my way of doing things to their needs, of doing stuff I'd really not considered ever doing etc. Learning so much stuff that seems totally unconnected to my genitals. 

But sex isn't just scratching an itch, it has a pre-designated purpose outside of making us squirm and wear a silly smile for a while.

Ultimately, sex is about making babies. Biology, has made sure that there are many aspects to sex, and that it should always be a drive until we are past reproductive age, and whilst the modern understanding of sex is all about the pleasure, biology makes it a LOT more complicated. (I use the dry term "biology" but in my head I am thinking "wonderous design of God", I've not lost my Christianity, but most people seem to have, so let's keep it secular, eh?) 

You can of course, try and get more creative with the masturbation, buy a Sybian sex machine etc, but from what I can gather that still only gets you so far... 

Here's the kicker though. 

For many people, after moving on from playing exclusively with themselves and managing to get to play with someone else, if you still measure things simply in terms of your own sexual pleasure it gets boring again... (Nearly everyone tells me or demonstrates this) 

But for some people, for whom sex is just a pleasant part of their whole relationship, it never gets boring. 

I was in my youth exposed to the idea of a relationship Triangle existing, where Love, Sex & Marriage are the three sides. I was taught to pay attention to all three sides, and that seems to have paid off in later life. 

This is where having a second person in one's sexual relationship(s) really starts to shine...

For some reason, "Traditional" sexual mores have become very much denigraded in the media, yet actually for most people, a monogamous hetereosexual relationship delivers the most satisfaction. 

Obtaining what I want in life, I see as a skill. As I got good at it I learned that wanting the right things for the right reasons is WAY more important a skill to have if you want to be happy... I found that this applies to sex as much as anything else.

For some inexplicable reason people tell me things, they always have, so I know a great deal about other peoples private lives first hand, and over the last sixty years I've integrated all those sexual and other stories I've listened to, and it paints a VERY different picture of sex, and love to that which we are exposed to in the media.

If you are bored of masturbation, then based on what I think I know, you are ready to go and find a partner! And in this world rigt now, that's incredibly difficult...

Yet portrayed as such a simple thing. Getting a satiisfactory sexual partner for me has always involved a world of compromise, of bending my way of doing things to their needs, of doing stuff I'd really not considered ever doing etc. Learning so much stuff that seems totally unconnected to my genitals. 

But sex isn't just scratching an itch, it has a pre-designated purpose outside of making us squirm and wear a silly smile for a while.

Ultimately, sex is about making babies. Biology, has made sure that there are many aspects to sex, and that it should always be a drive until we are past reproductive age, and whilst the modern understanding of sex is all about the pleasure, biology makes it a LOT more complicated. (I use the dry term "biology" but in my head I am thinking "wonderous design of God", I've not lost my Christianity, but most people seem to have, so let's keep it secular, eh?) 

You can of course, try and get more creative with the masturbation, buy a Sybian sex machine etc, but from what I can gather that still only gets you so far... 

Here's the kicker though. 

For many people, after moving on from playing exclusively with themselves and managing to get to play with someone else, if you still measure things simply in terms of your own sexual pleasure it gets boring again... (Nearly everyone tells me or demonstrates this) 

But for some people, for whom sex is just a pleasant part of their whole relationship, it never gets boring. 

I was in my youth exposed to the idea of a relationship Triangle existing, where Love, Sex & Marriage are the three sides. I was taught to pay attention to all three sides, and that seems to have paid off in later life.