Published on 12, July, 2020
As the saying goes. Trying to get my head around the contradiction between being told I belong and am wanted here and the heavy, and often very condescending ,criticism that's currently being directed at me.
Is it possibe that you see the negative more than the possitive or give the negative more weight?
I don't find all the posts directed at me, supportive or helpful either, a couple have made me wonder if the poster thinks my head does up at the back because the post they send me is so Duh! But I accept that most people are trying to be genuinely helpful and not patronising. People have so many different levels of ability here, its often hard to know how to pitch a response, I think it takes a while to get ones head around it. In my case, I've been questioned about why I don't share photo's, it might be reasonably asked, how someone with a degree and who's obviously fairly intelligent and well read, can't use a camera or a smart phone or any of the other tech gadgets people use?
It's not just you, its all of us!
TheCatWoman said:Is it possibe that you see the negative more than the possitive or give the negative more weight?
I don't dismiss that. I'm very much someone who places a greater psychological weight on negative comments aimed at me than on positive comments I receive.
TheCatWoman said:People have so many different levels of ability here, its often hard to know how to pitch a response, I think it takes a while to get ones head around it.
I can best describe how things are with me as, with words I used recently, 'Exec dysfunction can be like a car with a powerful engine but a very dodgy steering wheel. IMO It's the thing that's had the most disabling effect on me.'