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Sounding Grumpy Or ‘Short’

Roy
1 month ago

I’m most probably having more of a vent than asking advice. Im always being accused of sounding grumpy or being ’short’ with people, I’m not, my voice is quite deep and can be very monotone.

I know internally that I’m not  answering abruptly, I admit I can get tired quite quickly when in conversation, having to repeat a sentence when misheard can cause me to literally runout of words. It’s then thought that I’m being more awkward. I’m putting more energy into trying to smile and undulate my voice, if that’s the correct word? 

Im thinking it must run along the same lines as Martins post on looking miserable when not.

Is this something anyone else has encountered or am I being weirder than normal?

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  • 1 month ago

    Roy - I get this A LOT !!  Generally, I'm accused of being "angry" or "annoyed".......when I am not either of those things.  When I have something that I want to say properly, I often pause and take a breath = "people" seem to interpret this as me needing to 'calm myself down because I am so annoyed about it' = but that is NEVER the case.  Moreover, when I speak (or even more, when I don't speak) I am interpreted as being "moody"......which I am not.

    Although it is us autistic folk that seem to be endlessly told that WE have the problem with communication and understanding ..... in my case, it seems to be that either (a) THEY have the problem or (b) WE/I have a problem of somehow misrepresenting how I am feeling to other people.

  • 1 month ago in reply to Number

    The other thing that really bugs me, is being asked what I mean? I've noticed I'm usually asked this when someone dosen't like the answer to a question they've asked me, then they get really cross with me because I've not agreed with the them, is a question the right way of asking for agreement? It's not like it was a simple question, like 'would you like a drink?' Always a complicated one with many levels of answer, like 'what do you think about Ukraine invading Russia?'

    It all gets to the point sometimes where I wonder if I'm speaking the same language as everybody else or if I've suddenly got Word Salad?

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  • 1 month ago in reply to Number

    The other thing that really bugs me, is being asked what I mean? I've noticed I'm usually asked this when someone dosen't like the answer to a question they've asked me, then they get really cross with me because I've not agreed with the them, is a question the right way of asking for agreement? It's not like it was a simple question, like 'would you like a drink?' Always a complicated one with many levels of answer, like 'what do you think about Ukraine invading Russia?'

    It all gets to the point sometimes where I wonder if I'm speaking the same language as everybody else or if I've suddenly got Word Salad?

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