Published on 12, July, 2020
I wondered if the following situation is commonly experienced by other autistics?
I am out in public, walking along, minding my own business, and some random stranger says, "Cheer up, it might never happen", or words to that effect.
I find it very intrusive and usually cannot find anything witty to say, which would be an ideal response. I am hugely resentful of the concept that I owe it to complete strangers to compose my facial expression to suit their peculiar standards.
I get this a lot in my socially deprived, Labour controlled, working class area in Manchester, in the same circumstances as you describe, but with (shouted aggressively for no reason) commands and instructions from random strangers, usually passing by in cars or on bikes, in a very forceful and aggressive tone, to “shut up moaning” and this happens all the time, both before and after Covid, before and after my diagnosis
Random people shouting at others in the street is quite shocking, I've had various things shouted at me over the years, or muttered at me. The worst one was when my then16 year old daughter and I were walking into town and some bloke walking past us said' why don't you put her down you effing old ***'. Needless to say he got a lot more than he bargained for as both of us turned on him and told him just how wrong he was. It's just not what you expect at around 11am on a saturday morning.
I think some people just have no boundaries at all or maybe a few have tourettes, but they shoud all wind thier necks in. The thing with starting something like that on the street is you're making a lot of assumptions about the person you're shouting at, the person who's just been insulted could be a total nutter with a knife.
Thing is, it’s nothing new - it seems to come from some kind of (unwritten) “chav” or “scally” “moral code” with which we are supposed to comply (without thinking) therefore demonstrating our “cop on” or “common sense” and to comply with certain unwritten standards of behavior and certain unwritten rules which we should already know without having to be told, that if we are noticed and need to be shouted at, we are deemed to be “wrong” in some way - it’s like the same kind of attitude that believes that the only way to manage autism and other mental health/disability issues is ultra strict discipline, thought control, mind control and someone with these hidden disabilities, that person needs to be “bullied out of” them “for their own good” because it is deemed to come from a “negative” attitude - even this exchange explains why there is still such a lack of progress in society’s issues towards mental health issues and hidden disabilities and autism and why people will still refuse to understand and refuse to be educated on many of these issues - this is why I have over many years very gradually come to the understanding and conclusion that all leftist ideologies like leftism, Marxism, socialism, communism, fascism and even globalism are so divisive, harmful and dangerous to western society and western civilisation