Published on 12, July, 2020
The real world is not what you see online. You can talk all the exclusivity neurodivergent talk you can imagine. But in the real world, you will get singled out and it will be used against you. People can just not help themselves, they have to push your buttons, it's instinctual. If you announce you're different, that's just giving them ammo.
Telling somebody you're autistic is an invite for abuse and exploitation.Unless, you're real tough and can handle yourself, and dont break down very easily. Then disregard the advice. tell everybody. If you want. But i think most would be better served keeping it under wraps.
I am kinda agreeing with Lestat on this (WTF!) based on my experience so far. I had to disclose to my manager in order to get reasonable adjustments. Guess what I have been refused and am now being managed out of my department after 30 years. The justifications against my requests range from down right discriminatory, ignoring medical advice and are full of assumptions based on internal bias and stereotypes.
My colleagues figured out how to push my buttons and then I would be the one in trouble for reacting.
I have had a better experience in a temporary position recently. Maybe because it is a clean slate.
On the whole it is something that if I had the chance to do again I would think long and hard about it.
I am so please that your experience 'Pip' has been positive but not everyone's will be.
Revealing any vulnerability to anyone with NPD, a bullying mindset and/or prone to power trips in a workplace setting is like a goldmine, as they will exploit it to the max for any advantage they can, some types of employment are worse than others for this behaviour - some trade unions are better than others at handling these situations so caution and treading carefully when dealing with trade unions is highly advisable - post Covid, I would also tread very carefully with involving Solictors/legal profession as well, even if specialists in employment law
Yes.
I was never allowed to venture far 'for fear of something happening'. Grief is weaponised, especially here in Ireland. Any death of a son, or father, shuts women off.
They bombard Facebook with their grief, and say, "No one knows what I'm going through." The Black Flag mindset is still prevalent.
I came out as gay in my teens in the 1980’s in Rural Catholic Ireland and ever since that time, in both Ireland and the U.K. (Ireland being at a much faster pace and more total than the U.K.) it turned into a disgusting race to the bottom of degeneracy, where some always wanted to be “best in class” to “keep up with the jones” - over the course of 40 years, both inside and outside of the cesspit that the gay community turned into - it’s no wonder that I cut all ties and returned to my Catholic faith 18 years ago
IrishInManchesterUK said:our current world
the 80's were great to me aesthetically, don't no abut morally. I love the irreverence of the counterculture from that time. Modern society is so distasteful to me. And the media culture so barren and artless in comparison.I am kinda agreeing with IrishInManc on this (WTF!) Ha, but yeah
Our grandparents generation, being traditional Catholics, would always talk about “occasions of sin” and “bad company” - the more I see of the heartbreaking events of Covid and even more so in the post-Covid era, I’ve begun to realise that they were correct time and again on every point in our current world, over 40 years after their passing - I thank God that they reached out to me as a teen in the 1980’s before they passed, even though what they said “went over my head” at the time and was “glossed over” by my rebellious parents generation who by that stage had “come under” the influences of those with hidden agendas that turned out to be harmful - my grandparents unwavering commitment to the principles of duty and of taking responsibly are values that cannot be underestimated in our times and I never really understood until I came across an old Catholic prayer book from the 1930’s that had the examination of conscience before attending confession - if our generation had been taught and practiced these values from an early age when I was growing up, our world would not be so messed up as it is today