Published on 12, July, 2020
Hmmm.......so 4 months into my 'diagnosed' state (48yo), and I'm not feeling a whole heap of acceptance. I am still feeling quite bitter and resentful. Everything I see around me in life and at work seems to have been, and continues to be, designed with a slightly different species in mind.
I have started reading this forum more often, even though I'm scared of keep seeing my reflection in these threads, and am following some overtly divergent contributors on Facebook. I was skeptical that at my age, with my history, that I could somehow find 'inner peace' (I mean, really - what the hell is that even supposed to mean?), but at the moment I'm heading in the opposite direction. Those long-cherished hopes of finding the right therapy, the right antidepressant to 'sort me out' seem absurd.
I recall seeing a quite old entry on here where a user refers to feeling much better about the state of things 4 years in. FOUR YEARS? (yes, I am shouting). I don't think I can maintain even the current crumbling facade for another 3+ years. Especially now I recognize the effort I am putting in, and the energy this costs me.
There is no acceptance, only tolerance.
"Glasshopper"; "Man who go to bed with itching bum , wake up with smelly finger".
Iain said:That would make a good thread all on its own I think.
https://community.autism.org.uk/f/adults-on-the-autistic-spectrum/31170/what-s-gender
TheCatWoman said:I'm still learning what the triggers on this site are, anything to do with gender seems to be one, which is a shame as it and the societal expectations that go with it are pertinent to autistics.
That would make a good thread all on its own I think.
It is odd that so many autists tend to be quite black and white (or binary) in their logic yet the current trend in gender identity requires non-binary thinking.
I'm not inviting discussion on this thread but why not start one and we can see if the perception issues of neurodivergents become clearer?
One advantage is that is anyone starts to bring gender identity into a thread then they can be directed to the main thread to discuss it there, thus preventing unwanted branches.
Only a thought.
TBF, "veering off at a tangent" is what some of us seem to do and enjoy quite a lot!
I also believed from his style of writing that the O/P would appreciate a bit of "humour" being added to dilute the grim reality that Lestat presented with his KUNG-FU TV show derived meme.
I'd like to know how the original poster feels I / we have treated his post...
No it wasn't you Iain. I just get fed up when we seem to be having a normal discussion and then something happens and it veers off at a tangent that dosen't feel helpful to the OP or respectful. I'm still learning what the triggers on this site are, anything to do with gender seems to be one, which is a shame as it and the societal expectations that go with it are pertinent to autistics.
TheCatWoman said:I don't see any humour in this thread.
I'll be serious then.
I had been joking as the "amusing saings" branch of this thread had gone a bit Monty Python so I was continuing in that theme.
I apologise if this wasn't conveyed sufficiently clearly.
I don't see any humour in this thread.
I was mearly wondering if the societal expectations put on men had any bearing on how men cope with diagnosis, especially in later life. I didn't expect or intend to start some kind of gender war.
Just walk away, Cat. Inanity has infected the thread. Some folks are having fun and that's that. Or - you could just read the remarks that are directed directly to the discussion poster.
TheCatWoman said:What happened to this thread?
Don't blame it on the sunshineDon't blame it on the moonlightDon't blame it on the good timesBlame it on the boogie
Thats as much sense as I can make of it, much like the current gender identification situation.
Levity appeared.
What happened to this thread?
Adult human female, with the same gender assigned to her at birth by God
I Sperg said:An abrupt linear regression of our Number appears to have occured!!
what iS THAT YOU R MAJOR MALFUNCTION ? i THINK I HEARD THAT INA MO..FULL METAL jacket, I THINK. oops capslock
An abrupt linear regression of our Number appears to have occured!!
Iain said:Define "woman" please
A mystery wrapped in a riddle inside an enigma...an enigma that can cause headaches...
Baiting, is never an honourable way?! [Disambiguation - I'm not trying to intimate that you are dishonourable Iain, but I am merely extending the humorous metaphor into equally 'dishonourable' reverse psychology baiting......but as we all know....nothing good can come from this.....the minute you need to try and explain, you know the cause is lost.....when you find it as difficult as me to explain myself to anyone.] Communicating in this format is fraught with impossibilities for true clarity, aka "safe human."]
Holy carp - I think I just labelled an ancient communication "programming language".......I think I will name it "safe human." More catchy than "Facechat" or "InstaX"? Any takers.....of the baiters? ... Jesus....I do hope not...feel like I've made a knot.....or perhaps a noose?!.....Oh Sheet....now I've used those words, I probably should have a TW to the start of this writing...........A RR GGGGGG HH HH H HH HHH!!!!!
Unless it's one of those Japanese robot women....
Companion of Man fashioned by God from a spare rib whilst Adam slept, and who immediately adopted mindless consumerism and thus triggered the fall from grace of the entire human race.
OR.
Human being who lacks a Y chromosome, but is compensated in the vast majority of cases by ownership of the sole means of reproducing and nurturing other human beings, a process which also, at least initially in all cases, requires the assistance of a man, and in teh majority of sucessful cases of human reproduction, a mans assistance & participation is required on an ongoing basis.
Lestat said:Squirrel who runs up woman leg , will not find no nuts."
Define "woman" please.
"Gwasshopper; Squirrel who runs up woman leg , will not find no nuts."