Is it common to be called whiney and immature

JABman said:

I got called whiney and immature with a need to grow up

If this is getting to you then I would recommend developing a way to care less about petty insults like this.

I use mindfulness to consider the insult, quickly assess if it is valid or not. If not I ignore it as relevant and blank it (not necessarilty the person) but if it is relevant then I have 2 approaches:

1 - I say "I haden't realised that. I'm sorry and will try to do better".

or

2 - I say "You're right, thank you for making me feel like a real piece of rubbish and compounding my feelings of inadequacy.". A sarcastic tone is required for this one as you are effectively acknowledging it and telling then to go away.

Clearly you need to use them in the appropriate contexts.

JABman said:

I got called whiney and immature with a need to grow up

If this is getting to you then I would recommend developing a way to care less about petty insults like this.

I use mindfulness to consider the insult, quickly assess if it is valid or not. If not I ignore it as relevant and blank it (not necessarilty the person) but if it is relevant then I have 2 approaches:

1 - I say "I haden't realised that. I'm sorry and will try to do better".

or

2 - I say "You're right, thank you for making me feel like a real piece of rubbish and compounding my feelings of inadequacy.". A sarcastic tone is required for this one as you are effectively acknowledging it and telling then to go away.

Clearly you need to use them in the appropriate contexts.