Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello everyone I'm new on here. I would appreciate it if someone could give me some advice. My son lives by himself his flat is in a disgusting state. When I try to help him he says mind yr own business. Even with the support he gets he does'nt listen to them. I love my son but I'm so worried about him. He's on his computer 24/7. I don't know what to do. If I tried to speak to anyone about him for some help. People who know about autism they go back and tell him instead of it being a private conversation. Which make the relationship with my son worse. I really don't know what to do. Any suggests to what I can do to help my son would be appreciated.
NAS94159 said: When I try to help him he says mind yr own business.
If he is an adult and not a threat to others then let him be.
I'm sure you wouldn't want people with different standards trying to force their ideas on you.
I'm not sure this is necessarily down to his autism but possibly more that he spends all his time online and doesn't care about the other material trappings (eg tidiness, cleanliness and hygine) that you do.
If it is likely to lead to him losing his flat (eg landlord unhappy) then make the case clearly for this, but if he rejects it then let him deal with the consequences. It is the best learning solution.
If he is a risk to others and you believe the situation is dire then the last ditch solution could be to cut the phone line leading to the house if it is an option. Technically this would be criminal damage so you may have to face the consequnces, but it should give him the time to sit with little to do and realise what is going on around him. I would not reccomend this.