Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi , new here. My 7 year old is currently being assessed for Autism. His always quite well behaved at home as we can see when something is triggering him and distract him before it escalates or he will take himself off to his bedroom when he gets over stimulated.
However tonight he has absolutely lost it, worst meltdown yet. Hit myself, his step dad. Told us he hates us were horrible etc. I've put him in his room to calm down and to safeguard ourselves and his little brothers. My question is how do you know when it's his Autism/over stimulated or his just being a pre-teenage boy?
Myself and my partner have sat down and both said the same. We don't know how to punish him as we can't always tell which it is. Obviously if his being his back chatty teenage self he will just lose electrical devices for the day but I don't want to punish him for something he can't help. Be kind I'm sat crying feeling like the worse mum ever
It's horrible when your child behaves in such a violent way, I dont think you're a bad parent. Autistic children can be naughty as well as autistic. Maybe he will be able to tell you a bit mroe about what upset him so much when he's calmed down a bit, but he my not know himself or be able to verbalise it. Is he stressed about being assessed? COuld he feel insecure and fear abandonment is the diagnosis is positive? Children often think that if something is "wrong" with them that they are wrong.