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Best friend ditched me earlier.

Stu

He moved abroad to be with his partner. They're getting married in June and my wife and I were going to fly out there for the event. 

I'm very fragile right now and my wife has a lot on at work, so we withdrew our RSVP and offered to reimburse him if he ended up out of pocket. 

It'd be full of people I don't know in a strange country and alcohol would be around (I'm also a recovering alcoholic and am tee total). It just wasn't a good idea. 

He got nasty. Blocked me on Facebook and WhatsApp and said he was done with me. Accused me of lying. 

I got him on email where he told me I act like the world owes me one and I bring everybody around me down. 

I feel pretty low. 

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  • Sorry, but if you've got friends like this then who needs enemies? I get that moving and planing a wedding are stressful events for him, but it's not right of him to take it out on you. People's attitude to alcohol really bugs me, I know recovering alcoholics and I don't drink myself because of menopause and it giving monsterous hot flushes and making me sick, but people treat you like you're about to sprout a second head. I've had drinks spiked by people who think it funny, they say I don't have a proper drink, but it's not them spending the rest of the night with their head down the toilet!

    Your thanks but no thanks, is due to perfectly valid reasons, your partners workload and your own feelings of vulnerability, if the weddings being help abroad then you've got the added pressure of international travel, made a lot worse sinse Brexit, airports are horrible places and the though of the channel tunnel gives me the heebie jeebies. It all sounds like the event will take a lot longer than one or two days and thats not posible for many people.

    I do get how awful it is losing a friend, its every bit as bad as breaking up with a partner, you get left with the same questions and knowlege that you're unlikely to get answers, theres a gap left by them when you think about doing the things you enjoyed together, its horrible.

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  • Sorry, but if you've got friends like this then who needs enemies? I get that moving and planing a wedding are stressful events for him, but it's not right of him to take it out on you. People's attitude to alcohol really bugs me, I know recovering alcoholics and I don't drink myself because of menopause and it giving monsterous hot flushes and making me sick, but people treat you like you're about to sprout a second head. I've had drinks spiked by people who think it funny, they say I don't have a proper drink, but it's not them spending the rest of the night with their head down the toilet!

    Your thanks but no thanks, is due to perfectly valid reasons, your partners workload and your own feelings of vulnerability, if the weddings being help abroad then you've got the added pressure of international travel, made a lot worse sinse Brexit, airports are horrible places and the though of the channel tunnel gives me the heebie jeebies. It all sounds like the event will take a lot longer than one or two days and thats not posible for many people.

    I do get how awful it is losing a friend, its every bit as bad as breaking up with a partner, you get left with the same questions and knowlege that you're unlikely to get answers, theres a gap left by them when you think about doing the things you enjoyed together, its horrible.

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