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Done something stupid and I regret it

Rach91

Hi my friend blocked me on Thursday evening and I have been trying to find ways of contacting him as I’m the sort of person who wants to resolve things as quickly as possible back in February out of impulse and frustration me and the same friend argued he blocked me and I ended up going over his uninvited I only wanted to resolve the argument but instead made it worse as I pushed through boundaries. Me and my friend are close but we do have our arguments like we did on Thursday. Anyway long story short today out of impulse I bought a cheap smart phone and a pay as you go SIM card I then messaged him myself pretending to be my other friend and he took the bait. He basically said we are still friends but he wants space at the moment but was annoyed with the fact that he thinks I gave my friend his number which I didn’t it was me pretending to be my friend so I could find out what’s what. I am now regretting this as I used my friend as a pawn to get in contact with my other friend who isn’t speaking to me at the moment. I want to tell the truth now but I’m afraid that I’m going to cause more damage. My head is all over the place at the moment and I don’t know what to do. Should I tell the truth or just leave it be or should I wait a while before I tell the truth? 

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  • You needed to have used a little more patience, and less intelligence to solve that one.

    Now you've acted like a manipulative twit, and backed yourself into a bit of a corner (AS I SEE IT, as an older man). 

    Nothing in my experience that can't be fixed by a bit of straight talking and apologising, and above all, admitting your wrongdoing.

    AFTER a period of cooling off and reflection...

    As a brighter AUDD person I found it initially easy to manipulate people for my own ends, but the monent you get "caught" doing it, people like you less, unless you have a very fast and slippery tongue, like a psychopath does.

    For us Autists I am convinced that honesty and simplicity and generosity of spirit in our dealings with others, is a crucial survival mechanism. It's a big part of why my Christian knowledge is actually useful to me.

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  • You needed to have used a little more patience, and less intelligence to solve that one.

    Now you've acted like a manipulative twit, and backed yourself into a bit of a corner (AS I SEE IT, as an older man). 

    Nothing in my experience that can't be fixed by a bit of straight talking and apologising, and above all, admitting your wrongdoing.

    AFTER a period of cooling off and reflection...

    As a brighter AUDD person I found it initially easy to manipulate people for my own ends, but the monent you get "caught" doing it, people like you less, unless you have a very fast and slippery tongue, like a psychopath does.

    For us Autists I am convinced that honesty and simplicity and generosity of spirit in our dealings with others, is a crucial survival mechanism. It's a big part of why my Christian knowledge is actually useful to me.

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