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Old age hitting hard.

John R

Where do I start? Soon to be 67. . Recently diagnosed ADHD and Autism. NT partner 74. Been together 30+ years. Thought all our problems might get resolved with diagnosis.

Not so. Partner feels hopeless. Alone. Isolated. She can't see me ever changing. Before diagnosis she had hope that I could. She feels her life with me has been wasted. She hones in on my every 'mistake' and blames Autism. "You're the autistic one" is being said more and more.

What is so sad is that she is a truly good person becoming sad, scared and bitter.

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  • One thing that I have observed since my teens in the 1980’s growing up in Rural Ireland, was that back then, I embraced scientific and technological “progress” and “advances” and big cities, but in a (very gradual) process since then as I’ve gotten older, is that I’ve started to value Rural Life, Tradition, Faith and Family Values far more and I have increasingly found myself “turning back the clock” on a lot of things - while not necessarily linked to advanced age, where they say that age brings wisdom, I’d certainly say that I have decidedly become conservative minded in my “old age” even as an older gay man - I’ve heard the stereotype that gay men are always trying to recapture their lost youth in so many ways, but it does not hold true for me and I’m happy to grow old gracefully - I see younger people making the same mistakes that I did at their age, but I do think that younger people today have far greater challenges and social pressures placed on them today, despite the advantages that they have today that we never had back in my youth 

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  • One thing that I have observed since my teens in the 1980’s growing up in Rural Ireland, was that back then, I embraced scientific and technological “progress” and “advances” and big cities, but in a (very gradual) process since then as I’ve gotten older, is that I’ve started to value Rural Life, Tradition, Faith and Family Values far more and I have increasingly found myself “turning back the clock” on a lot of things - while not necessarily linked to advanced age, where they say that age brings wisdom, I’d certainly say that I have decidedly become conservative minded in my “old age” even as an older gay man - I’ve heard the stereotype that gay men are always trying to recapture their lost youth in so many ways, but it does not hold true for me and I’m happy to grow old gracefully - I see younger people making the same mistakes that I did at their age, but I do think that younger people today have far greater challenges and social pressures placed on them today, despite the advantages that they have today that we never had back in my youth 

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