Published on 12, July, 2020
Where do I start? Soon to be 67. . Recently diagnosed ADHD and Autism. NT partner 74. Been together 30+ years. Thought all our problems might get resolved with diagnosis.
Not so. Partner feels hopeless. Alone. Isolated. She can't see me ever changing. Before diagnosis she had hope that I could. She feels her life with me has been wasted. She hones in on my every 'mistake' and blames Autism. "You're the autistic one" is being said more and more.
What is so sad is that she is a truly good person becoming sad, scared and bitter.
I don't understand why NT's think that people will change. Surely it is obvious that people are different .You wouldn't just magically expect an adult to increase their height would you? Also why marry someone that they don't really like? They seem like very strange beings to me. I suppose this is what happens when your neurotype is always pandered to. You think your way is correct and everyone else must change to be like you.
Recent advances in genetic research have determined that some people lack a certain type of chromosome.
This defiency sadly has a strong correlation with a tendancy to get over invested in a particular individual, shoe, house etc, move heaven and earth to acquire said asset, and then IMMEDIATELY STRIVE TO ALTER IT from it's original state.
Science has yet to provide a satisfactory cure for these poor suffering individuals, but research continues....