Published on 12, July, 2020
I feel lonely most of the time. I live at home with my parents but I'm kind of the outcast, maybe because of the autism? I never know what to say to people and my social skills suck anyway. At school I was lonely too no one ever wanted to talk to me or be friends. I even attended an evening chess class last year and I still didn't make a single friend...
It's almost like I'm incapable of making friends. I try. And I really do try, I've even looked up tips online on what to say and that sort of thing and it doesn't work.
I think the main problem is I come across awkward and I think it puts people off because they see my awkwardness and probably can sense how anxious I am as well if that makes sense.
I'll be 27 soon and I'm sad I still don't have any friends. I was hoping by now I would have a boyfriend too but that's not happened either.
You’re certainly not alone Adele, you’ve just described my life.
I can’t really offer a solution but I will say one thing: as I got older I layered social skills on top of myself partly through conscious effort and partly through exposure to people at work. I don’t think people at work really realise I have a problem as they often assume I have a wife etc. So I am not excluded / isolated in quite the way I was in my earlier life.
But yes, finding a wife and a family would be like winning the lottery for me.