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Is it getting a little bit boring around here?

Peter

So cut me some slack because what I'm about to say is likely to annoy some people but it's not an accusation against any one as such. But don't you get tired with the threads here. 60% seems to be parents going 'my child X please help.' Even if you restrict yourself the autistic adults forum so much of it is so trivial and boring every day. I've started clasifing the difrent classes of boring threads I'm reading, they are so predictable.

  • Hey I'm autistic and I have trait / experence X! do we all have X? what about you?
  • Here is a random piece of prozaic infomation about how my day went I just want to share incase it interests you.
  • I don't like how autism is portayed in the media.
  • I'm nervese about upcoming diagnoises
  • I did / didn't get diagnosed
  • Should I get diagnosed?
  • random pets / animal memes / pictures thread.
  • Help there is trouble at work (valid to ask for help of course but it gets tirering giving the same advice over and over)
  • advise me what resonable adjustments I should ask for
  • Random quiz thread. E.G. 'what is your favorite X,' 'do you have X type of thing.' etc.
  • Here's a random long artical / youtube video (usuall with no scientific evidence) about autism I think you should see.
  • Life sucks because X (again very valid but all too often it's in a way that doesn't really open a discussion, it's just for sympathy)
  • I have a Problem please help (but gives almost no detail or context for the problem so it's hard to say much).
  • How do I deleat / please deleat.

Threads I miss seeing and that seem to be getting rarer:

  • I have controversial opinion X and here are my reasions; lets talk about it.
  • I have a novel problem X and here is a lot of detail can you help me brain storm.
  • What would make life better for autistic people is X, do you agree? How do we work towards it.
  • Curent afairs / polotics thing X is an issue for autistic people what should we do about it?
  • Thing X that autistic people tend to strugel with presents a moril / pholosophical chalenge for autistic people how should we adress it?
  • Here is a news artical / press release / peer reveiwed paper relevent to autistic people.

I'm not saying everything has to be like a oxbridge debating sociaty but it would be nice if we could have a few more meaty discussions around here. I'm surely not the only one who feels that way?

Parents

  • Boring is good.

    • In the past I have posted controversial opinions, 
    • Current affairs.
    • News items related to autism.

    People got upset.

  • in reply to Robert124

    Yes ... well respectufully I don't care that they got upset. People get upset at all kinds of irational things. I knew one person that used to have issues with rooms with red walls because of past traumatic experences. Oversensative souls need graded exposure therapy to contoversy and conflict which we are providing in this relativly safe online space. I mean no matter what they think of us they know we can't jump out of the screen and bite them.

  • in reply to Peter
    Peter said:
    Yes ... well respectufully I don't care that they got upset. People get upset at all kinds of irational things.

    It’s not irrational to get upset about upsetting or controversial content or posts, it’s only natural. We all have different needs and we need to respect that some members of our autistic community may find the discussion of certain topics triggering.

    Peter said:
    Oversensative souls need graded exposure therapy to contoversy and conflict which we are providing in this relativly safe online space. I mean no matter what they think of us they know we can't jump out of the screen and bite them.

    There is no such thing as being over sensitive , it’s very common for many members of our autistic community including myself to feel things very deeply. This can be both beautiful and distressing depending on the context, we need to be mindful of this.

  • in reply to Ausomely Autistic

    I don’t need to learn about the autistic nervous system I have one. I have all kinds of anxiety responses peculiar peeves and I learn to suppress them because I need to to function in society and to be a rational human being.

    dogs are an excellent example if I had my way I would much prefer to live in a society where pet dogs were not a thing. Maybe allow guide dogs and nothing else. They make me un easy because you can’t have a conversation with one you can’t tell one no. If a bloke at a bar comes sniffing up my crotch or clambering onto my lap and I push him across the room everybody understands my actions are reasonable if it’s a dog however I am the bad guy.

    when a little yappy dog is barking at my heels my instinct is to kick it. Not because I’m a cruel person who hates animals but because it makes me uneasy and I want it away from me and it won’t go away just because I tell it to. I have learnt to rationally suppress my instincts.

    my mother is buried in a cemetery where people walk their dogs. and when I see people letting their dogs off the lead and allowing them to run across the cemetery over peoples graves I find it disrespectful. I have yet to go up and give someone a strongly worded lecture about doing this.

    there comes a point where you must recognise you need more basis than simply your feelings to justify infringing upon other peoples option to do things like own dogs and take them out for a walk. Or tell people they can’t make controversial statements because they make you feel bad.

    and I’ve not even been bitten by a dog what about the people who have actually been traumatised by dog attacks shall we ban all dogs from parks to make them more comfortable. shall we ban all dogs period so that they can walk down the street without ever having to come into contact with one? there are limits to how far peoples personal freedoms should be curtailed for the sake of other peoples emotions.

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  • in reply to Ausomely Autistic

    I don’t need to learn about the autistic nervous system I have one. I have all kinds of anxiety responses peculiar peeves and I learn to suppress them because I need to to function in society and to be a rational human being.

    dogs are an excellent example if I had my way I would much prefer to live in a society where pet dogs were not a thing. Maybe allow guide dogs and nothing else. They make me un easy because you can’t have a conversation with one you can’t tell one no. If a bloke at a bar comes sniffing up my crotch or clambering onto my lap and I push him across the room everybody understands my actions are reasonable if it’s a dog however I am the bad guy.

    when a little yappy dog is barking at my heels my instinct is to kick it. Not because I’m a cruel person who hates animals but because it makes me uneasy and I want it away from me and it won’t go away just because I tell it to. I have learnt to rationally suppress my instincts.

    my mother is buried in a cemetery where people walk their dogs. and when I see people letting their dogs off the lead and allowing them to run across the cemetery over peoples graves I find it disrespectful. I have yet to go up and give someone a strongly worded lecture about doing this.

    there comes a point where you must recognise you need more basis than simply your feelings to justify infringing upon other peoples option to do things like own dogs and take them out for a walk. Or tell people they can’t make controversial statements because they make you feel bad.

    and I’ve not even been bitten by a dog what about the people who have actually been traumatised by dog attacks shall we ban all dogs from parks to make them more comfortable. shall we ban all dogs period so that they can walk down the street without ever having to come into contact with one? there are limits to how far peoples personal freedoms should be curtailed for the sake of other peoples emotions.

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