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Is it getting a little bit boring around here?

Peter

So cut me some slack because what I'm about to say is likely to annoy some people but it's not an accusation against any one as such. But don't you get tired with the threads here. 60% seems to be parents going 'my child X please help.' Even if you restrict yourself the autistic adults forum so much of it is so trivial and boring every day. I've started clasifing the difrent classes of boring threads I'm reading, they are so predictable.

  • Hey I'm autistic and I have trait / experence X! do we all have X? what about you?
  • Here is a random piece of prozaic infomation about how my day went I just want to share incase it interests you.
  • I don't like how autism is portayed in the media.
  • I'm nervese about upcoming diagnoises
  • I did / didn't get diagnosed
  • Should I get diagnosed?
  • random pets / animal memes / pictures thread.
  • Help there is trouble at work (valid to ask for help of course but it gets tirering giving the same advice over and over)
  • advise me what resonable adjustments I should ask for
  • Random quiz thread. E.G. 'what is your favorite X,' 'do you have X type of thing.' etc.
  • Here's a random long artical / youtube video (usuall with no scientific evidence) about autism I think you should see.
  • Life sucks because X (again very valid but all too often it's in a way that doesn't really open a discussion, it's just for sympathy)
  • I have a Problem please help (but gives almost no detail or context for the problem so it's hard to say much).
  • How do I deleat / please deleat.

Threads I miss seeing and that seem to be getting rarer:

  • I have controversial opinion X and here are my reasions; lets talk about it.
  • I have a novel problem X and here is a lot of detail can you help me brain storm.
  • What would make life better for autistic people is X, do you agree? How do we work towards it.
  • Curent afairs / polotics thing X is an issue for autistic people what should we do about it?
  • Thing X that autistic people tend to strugel with presents a moril / pholosophical chalenge for autistic people how should we adress it?
  • Here is a news artical / press release / peer reveiwed paper relevent to autistic people.

I'm not saying everything has to be like a oxbridge debating sociaty but it would be nice if we could have a few more meaty discussions around here. I'm surely not the only one who feels that way?

Parents

  • So here is the question - is this a support group for people awaiting diagnosis/newly diagnosed..

    or is it a social space for diagnosed people to "chat"?

    (they have different needs - a point I have raised before in face to face groups)

  • in reply to Boika

    Both, this autistic community serves many different purposes!

    This space is useful as longer term members such as myself can support others in their autistic discovery journey, whilst also contributing to in depth discussions about anything including our autistic experiences so our social needs are still met.

    The main reason why newly discovered or questioning members of our community join is usually to seek out a space where they are surrounded by neurokin for the first time.

    I know when I first joined here, it was the first time I felt understood and that is invaluable.

    Another reason why members of our neurokin approach this space for support is because formal support is lacking and other services (such as the old helpline) no longer exist.

     I think that our autistic community (not just this one) is the best form of support there is!

  • in reply to Ausomely Autistic
    Ausomely Autistic said:
    I know when I first joined here, it was the first time I felt understood and that is invaluable.

    This is why and what I use this forum for. I personally have far to much debating and disagreement in my day to day life, having confrontation on here would probably see me disappear for a while. 
    Having said that I have noticed that things aren’t quite as they were on here and couldn’t really put my finger on it. 
    This place has been great for me and I like sharing ideas to help others also. 

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  • in reply to Ausomely Autistic
    Ausomely Autistic said:
    I know when I first joined here, it was the first time I felt understood and that is invaluable.

    This is why and what I use this forum for. I personally have far to much debating and disagreement in my day to day life, having confrontation on here would probably see me disappear for a while. 
    Having said that I have noticed that things aren’t quite as they were on here and couldn’t really put my finger on it. 
    This place has been great for me and I like sharing ideas to help others also. 

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  • in reply to Take5
    Take5 said:
    This place has been great for me and I like sharing ideas to help others also. 

    Glad you enjoy this autistic community so much, so do I!

    Take5 said:
    having confrontation on here would probably see me disappear for a while. 

    Yes I agree, I think we should try to make our autistic community as safe and as accepting as possible. This is especially important given that many of us including myself experience misunderstandings, rejection, invalidation and isolation every day in offline spaces. I think we should really support each other.