Published on 12, July, 2020
I'm suspecting I am on the autism spectrum, because my daughter is, and understanding her needs made me realise a lot more about myself seeming very similar. So I've been thinking a lot about what I actually do and how it wasn't as "normal" as I thought. One thing I do is basically have conversations in my head a lot, like I'm trying to imagine what the confident, neurotypical version of me would be like, does anyone else do this?
To explain further, here is what I mean. Depending on who I want to talk to, I'll feel different levels of anxiety - the more familiar I am with someone, the less anxious I'll be. But every time I will still follow this pattern:
I just don't imagine a neurotypical person doing any of this.
Unlike yourself, I seldom map out conversations in my head due to it being impossible to predict the direction a conversation will take. The exception tends to be when I need to say something to someone that I fear may upset or anger them, in which case I will spend time thinking about how best to phrase it.
Like you, I can get distracted by my own thoughts during conversations. I think this is something that neurotypical people may possibly do as well though.
After a conversation has ended, I often find myself replaying it in my head too (the bits of it that I am still able to remember). In my case, it can often be an automatic thing, rather than because I actively want to replay those conversations.