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Erwin

Hello, 

I am always overthinking in relationships as recently, I broke up with my ex a while ago and we have reminded friends until recently, they have always known about my Autism & OCD tendencies and have been rather supportive of them & not bothered by them which is a good thing. But recently they told me how they felt and something didn't sit right with me, did they feel that way because I was autistic, I always truly felt that I was strange or something, always talking myself down. But then they told me some stuff and it brought it up all back up.

It's like I think, can I find someone who I could have a relationship with? Without showing my tendencies or anything like that. 

I would love to hear some feedback on how you cope in relationships, I have always struggled but I struggle with my emotions and explaining them. 

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  • You can, and will.

    Before I was diagnosed I found dates very difficult, especially since everything started from online dating, but forced myself to go out of my comfort zone. 

    Eventually I found the right person, who looking back, also is somewhere on the spectrum. 

    We were a few months into our relationship when I was diagnosed, and his response was simply "It doesn't change who you are, it's just you, and I've always known you were." 

    2 years later we are married. :-)

    When you find the right person, you will know. You click straight away.

    Before that, I was single for about 3 years having got out of an abusive relationship. I felt I would never find anyone and wasn't deserving of any love. 

    Now, I know what real, unconditional love is like, and it appeared very unexpectedly! 

    Wishing you all the best, be kind to yourself.

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  • You can, and will.

    Before I was diagnosed I found dates very difficult, especially since everything started from online dating, but forced myself to go out of my comfort zone. 

    Eventually I found the right person, who looking back, also is somewhere on the spectrum. 

    We were a few months into our relationship when I was diagnosed, and his response was simply "It doesn't change who you are, it's just you, and I've always known you were." 

    2 years later we are married. :-)

    When you find the right person, you will know. You click straight away.

    Before that, I was single for about 3 years having got out of an abusive relationship. I felt I would never find anyone and wasn't deserving of any love. 

    Now, I know what real, unconditional love is like, and it appeared very unexpectedly! 

    Wishing you all the best, be kind to yourself.

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