Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello,
I am always overthinking in relationships as recently, I broke up with my ex a while ago and we have reminded friends until recently, they have always known about my Autism & OCD tendencies and have been rather supportive of them & not bothered by them which is a good thing. But recently they told me how they felt and something didn't sit right with me, did they feel that way because I was autistic, I always truly felt that I was strange or something, always talking myself down. But then they told me some stuff and it brought it up all back up.
It's like I think, can I find someone who I could have a relationship with? Without showing my tendencies or anything like that.
I would love to hear some feedback on how you cope in relationships, I have always struggled but I struggle with my emotions and explaining them.
Erwin said:I would love to hear some feedback on how you cope in relationships
That is a very big subject to cover.
Assuming you are OK in starting a relationship then you have to look at the main components:
1 - balance / harmony in both your lives
2 - what does the other person need & want
3 - what do you need & want - and how do you let your partner know
4 - How do you grow the relationship from the initial getting together to long term commitment.
Which of these aspects do you struggle most with and I can try to flesh them out from my experience and understanding.