Published on 12, July, 2020
I (37f) went to see my GP today for a sick line. I am struggling with the demands of work at the moment. I am currently undertaking a private assessment for ASD after years of social difficulties and mental health issues. I asked the Dr while I was there if she would accept a private diagnosis. The (short) conversation ended in her saying if I had held down a job and a relationship I was not autistic.
This has absolutely baffled me and seems a bit short sighted! I just wondered if anyone had any thoughts?
That’s obviously rubbish - lots of autistic people have a job and a relationship.
yeah thats where it gets hard though as autism is a social deficit in which making any relationship would be hard to impossible and be all on the other side to make it happen.this is why they need historical data rather than current data... it may have been a hard struggle getting that one single relationship you have, it might have been all on the other side getting it with no effort or function from you. they need more data basically, more info to determine that.
Caelus said:yeah thats where it gets hard though as autism is a social deficit in which making any relationship would be hard to impossible and be all on the other side to make it happen.
No I don’t agree, we socialise and communicate differently and therefore develop relationships differently.
No human deserves to be described as having ‘so called deficits’. We are neurodivergent!
no, deficit is a perfectly fine word to use in many occasions...if a person is less of muscle while another has way too much muscle we can say the one with less muscle has a muscular deficit. more so in that case as a deficit in muscle mass often comes from a deficit in protein intake and muscular stimulus.the deficit in social life comes often from a missed social development stage were we likely got smothered and held back from socialisation with others at the one tiny window you develop your social skills at, thus a deficit in being allowed to socialise among others at that stage results in a deficit of social ability later on.its ok to have less at something than others, you cant have more and be better at everything. if one was more and better at everything then theyd likely have a deficit in humanity lol