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How can I get him to understand

Rach91
8 months ago

I have reached the lowest of the low and I feel like what is the point. I have tried telling Rikki how I feel and what I need in life. All I want in life is a friend I can eat junk food with to snugCrye up to if I’m feeling low a shoulder to cry on when I need it but Rikki doesn’t understand the bond between us is unreal we have both been there for each other after my mum died he was there after Crys heart attack and open heart surgery I was there for him and when I’ve had my low moments he been there. Two autistic adults there for one another but recently that hasn’t happened today I thought Cry unblocked me we can speak only for me to *** things up again and he does block me again. He says my behaviour is toxic but I don’t mean it to be just need a friend I can snuggle up to a shoulder tCrycry on and a friend I can eat junk food with to make me feel better but Rikki can’t see that at the moment how can I help him see it? How can I help him understand?    Cry

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  • 8 months ago

    Based on what you have written here, and the content of your previous posts, I think the way forward is to back off and give your friend space.

    You have explained to him how you feel, which is all that you can do. Right now, I think the more you attempt to make contact with him, the more likely you are to push him further away. Obviously, I don't know you and I don't know him, but I cannot help but wonder if he is feeling overwhelmed and in need of time and space to think about how he truly feels, and what it is he wants.

    If your friend has decided that he no longer wishes to continue a friendship with you, then as hard as it may be, I think you need to respect that. Otherwise, I think it is likely that he will just end up resenting you for trying to force something on him that he may no longer want.

    For now, why not focus on your other friendships? In time, maybe your friend Rikki will decide he wishes to resume the friendship and will reach out to you. What seems clear to me is that the way things have played out during recent weeks doesn't seem to have been doing either of you any good. 

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  • 8 months ago

    Based on what you have written here, and the content of your previous posts, I think the way forward is to back off and give your friend space.

    You have explained to him how you feel, which is all that you can do. Right now, I think the more you attempt to make contact with him, the more likely you are to push him further away. Obviously, I don't know you and I don't know him, but I cannot help but wonder if he is feeling overwhelmed and in need of time and space to think about how he truly feels, and what it is he wants.

    If your friend has decided that he no longer wishes to continue a friendship with you, then as hard as it may be, I think you need to respect that. Otherwise, I think it is likely that he will just end up resenting you for trying to force something on him that he may no longer want.

    For now, why not focus on your other friendships? In time, maybe your friend Rikki will decide he wishes to resume the friendship and will reach out to you. What seems clear to me is that the way things have played out during recent weeks doesn't seem to have been doing either of you any good. 

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