Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello all,
I hope you're all well.
I have a quick question, i am 31 and Autistic. I work, but struggle with the most basic tasks, that a friend or outsider would shake their head that i struggled with this.
I struggle with basic tasks, cooking, taking medication, personal hygiene. My mum helps me to keep on top of things and truth be told, with out her, i would be screwed.
My question is (this is me forward thinking): What do people do when their support system or support person either ends, runs out, dies etc and you are left alone to navigare the world alone.
As we all know, we all love a good routine and i personally like to plan things, so what i am asking is, have people done things/put plans in place when still with family for when they're eventually on their own?
Best,
I am alone, apart from the dog.
My life is constructed around routines, and the basic premise that things will stay the same, more or less.
I struggle when things change and the balance of things is changed. I have been thrown by the freezer breaking - and although it will be resolved by a new one, it's still disruptive, which feels like a big thing, to me.
At these times, I sometimes wish there was someone to help, or support me. But in reality I don't think I'd cope with another person.
Pegg said:I struggle when things change and the balance of things is changed.
Me too. I can cope with a standard day where everything fits nicely into the routine, and can sometimes handle disruptions, but then other times a problem that would seem relatively minor to most people completely throws me. It is particularly an issue for anything house-related, if I have to rely on someone else, because I find it difficult to trust people I do not know (with good reason where plumbers are involved!). I hope you and the new freezer are very happy together (and what a beautiful drawing you posted in the creative thread )
InfinitePlanner said: I hope you and the new freezer are very happy together
Thanks! It's my first one, the old one my late mother bought. I feel strangely grown up! It's been delivered, but still will take a while to be ready. Disruption!
InfinitePlanner said: (and what a beautiful drawing you posted in the creative thread
Thank you, I appreciate that
For some reason the quote function seems to have stopped working for me, so I will manually repeat your comment: "I feel strangely grown up!"
I will add 'lack of a freezer' to the ever-lengthening list of reasons why I am still not a proper adult, despite many years of practice. I rely on the teeny compartment at the top of my under-counter fridge. I think part of the problem is that I have watched too many US cop shows so, whenever anyone uses the word 'freezer', rather than picturing a kitchen-based product overflowing with glorious food, I instead see a huge chest freezer sitting on a concrete floor in a dank, poorly-lit cellar, with a padlock on the lid. Just for clarification, which is closest to your situation?