Published on 12, July, 2020
My Autistic son ,works, started uni through work and drives,but like so many kids today spends all his spare time alone on his pc in his room.He has no friends and he is in denial ,he asked to be retested then changed his mind,we believe to prevent him from hearing again that he has Autism. He is now 20 and it is harder than ever to talk to him as he just grunts his answer back and have to ask him to repeat it which, again frustrates him.When listening to him play his pc his clarity in speech is frightening and so I ask the question "is it just myself and my wife" we got him to join a club where other Autistic people meet and he hated that and never went back.if only he would embrace his autism I think he would be a much happier boy,if there any advice out there I would appreciate anything and Thanks in advance.possible specialist that could maybe make him understand about himself. Sorry for rambling on ,just a worried and concerned Dad grasping for any positives
Thank you once again
I'm really sorry to hear your son is struggling so much. Autism brings many challenges with it and unfortunately it can pull you down and make you question yourself. I've been there. I think if he could join an online community, like this, or reach out to an autism professional then it will hopefully help him come to terms with things and make sense of who he is. I can recommend NAS, I used their service when I was going through difficult times, it cost money but their help and support was invaluable.
Your son is lucky to have such a caring and supportive Dad. Not every parent is like you unfortunately but it's great to hear you're offering so much support, that in itself will be helping him a lot. I hope things improve for your son soon.
Thank you for your reply.every reply helps my wife and I in some way.Regarding the online community, I would love him to take part but until he accepts his diagnosis I fear that this will never happen.i have said on a number of occasions that if he could only accept the diagnosis he would be so much happier but unfortunately as I said in my post he doesn't want to hear he just wants to stay in his bubble where he obviously feels safe.this is why I was thinking of trying to get him an appointment with a professional who can hopefully make him understand that being autistic is OK. It's just what type of professional and are they local.let me finish of my ramblings by Thanking you and everyone else who has given great advice and taken the time to reply to my post.
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Ah bless him. Acceptance is such a difficult one, it will happen but when he's good and ready. It's awesome that you're offering so much support and encouragement to him. Have you considered an online therapist, one who will do appointments via video call? This might be easiest for him as it means he wouldn't have to leave the house meaning less stress hopefully.
Just a suggestion to add to your list of potential options. Hope this helps you.
Another option ,yes and one I didn't even think about.so once again Thank you .Will be looking into that most definitely. A great idea ,after reading all the reply a little more upbeat.