Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi there. My eleven year old daughter is ASD high functioning and has just started high school. It’s not gone well and since October she’s not been able to attend for more than two hours a day. The school are helping her build back up. But since this she has started refusing to let me (her mother) out of the house. She will throw herself in front of the door and attack me if I try to leave. She will happily come with me but won’t allow me anywhere on my own. To be honest I’m now on anti depressants and scared to upset her. is this a common ASD trait? Is she genuinely afraid or just trying to control me? I’m afraid I will soon lose my job as I can’t go to the office
any advice welcome!
Why isnt she able to stay at school? Is she having trouble adjusting to high school, or is it sensory overwhelm, etc?
When I was her age, I would get agressive to control my mom. Not because I was trying to be mean but because I didnt know how else to do it. My dad would yell alot to get his way so I kind of learned that thats the only way people will listen. I struggle with explaining my emotions so if for example, I didnt want my mom to leave because I was scared, then instead of just telling her, I would probably start yelling and crying and maybe even start hitting if I was very upset.
I would try asking her what is going on, and maybe in those situations there could be some hidden reason that isnt so obvious. Maybe even thearopy could help, if shed be interested, although thearopy didnt fit well with me.
I think she’s struggling to adjust and sensory stuff too - we’re only just learning what triggers her. She’s an only child and we’ve always been close but she’s never had an issue before with me going out
all good things to know about. It sounds like a basic communication kerfuffle.