Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi there. My eleven year old daughter is ASD high functioning and has just started high school. It’s not gone well and since October she’s not been able to attend for more than two hours a day. The school are helping her build back up. But since this she has started refusing to let me (her mother) out of the house. She will throw herself in front of the door and attack me if I try to leave. She will happily come with me but won’t allow me anywhere on my own. To be honest I’m now on anti depressants and scared to upset her. is this a common ASD trait? Is she genuinely afraid or just trying to control me? I’m afraid I will soon lose my job as I can’t go to the office
any advice welcome!
I would like to know more. I'm feeling like there's a lot to unpack here.
some questions
when you make to go on your own who are you leaving her behind with?
It might be a person she may not feel safe with but cannot express this to you safely?
Is she allowed to go anywhere on her own?
Is she allowed to be alone?
Why do you mention the anti depressants? Is this a factor? perhaps she is frightened for you?
I leave her with her dad who she has a good relationship with but I am the one who is around her the most as he works long hours in the week
she is allowed to go out alone but is reluctant since starting secondary
She doesn’t know about my anti depressants so I don’t think this is a factor for her although she has seen me upset since she’s been refusing to go to school and we’ve both had a cry some days!