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Feeling like I have little control over my life

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I know I can't control absolutely everything that happens in my life but I'd like to be able to control the things I can. Unfortunately, I can't.

I've always been a people pleaser, which doesn't help. I find myself more prone to wanting to lash out because of it, I've been in the same position for so long and my inability to assert myself or stand my ground doesn't help.

I would sooner let someone mistreat me than confront them because it's safer to just let them. I know I'll come away from it feeling more angry and resentful but I don't feel safe enough in the moment,

I'm intrigued as to what has helped people (if there is anything that has). Maybe there's something I've not dug deep into enough.

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  • I used to be a people-pleaser too, before I got fed up with the people I was trying to please and decided, "No more apologies, they can go screw themselves" a few years back. It's... probably not a very good way to help the people-pleaser habit, though, but then again, I'm not sure what other things helped me kicked that habit.

  • in reply to SheepPF

    I do often try and talk myself into that, like "Why am I giving that negative comment from a stranger some importance", but it doesn't really help, because I know I can draw up reasons why I think that person is completely right.

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  • in reply to SheepPF

    I do often try and talk myself into that, like "Why am I giving that negative comment from a stranger some importance", but it doesn't really help, because I know I can draw up reasons why I think that person is completely right.

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