Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi my name is Rachel and I’m 32 and I have ASD. I am dating a guy who is 42 who is also on the spectrum but the issue is he has never had a girlfriend whereas I have been in a relationship twice before. My boyfriend really struggles being with me he has feelings for me and he wants to be in a relationship with me but he is so used to single life he struggles to accept that he is in relationship. He says he really not used to it and is afraid he won’t be able to cope. How can I reassure him that it will get easier and to help him with such a big change in his life? I know things can work out well between us he is such a great person but it’s just getting him used to being in a relationship with me sometimes causes issues. How can we both overcome this?
So, like your boyfriend, I have also been single all my life and I have often wondered if I push people away because I’m frightened I don’t “have room” in my life for someone else or because it all seems so much effort to change.
Your boyfriend may have similar worries.
It sounds like you really care about him though, and you both want it to work so maybe he just needs time to adjust?
Regardless, you’ve given me hope