Published on 12, July, 2020
HI
We currently have a couple of family members in hospital, and I am really struggling with the guilt I feel for not grieving for them but more of the change in routine and how them being ill is going the change my routine. It sounds so selfish.
I have noticed a lot in the past when a loved one has passed that I am more upset about the routine and change in traditions than actually missing the person. Don't get me wrong I do love them and enjoying being with them, but once they have gone it's not them as a person I miss. Its more the activies we did together the routine we had. I feel really guilty about this. I feel nothing for the actual person.
I think it’s very common amongst autistic people. I never grieved my dad’s death, almost three years ago. I felt worse about the lack of grief than about the actual loss.
community.autism.org.uk/.../grief