Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi,
I told a friend this afternoon about my recent revelation of being autistic. I've known her for years, and I thought she'd be supportive, but she wasn't at all. She questioned why I'd want to have a label. And she also said "well we are all on the spectrum to a degree". I felt she was being distant, and almost dismissive. I tried to explain how this revelation has been positive and is very freeing for me. Our phone conversation has upset me. And I wonder if it's time to move on from this friendship. This isn't the first time she upset me in recent months.
Has anyone else had this experience? I'd like to hear your views.
It is strange that so many neurotypical people view an autism diagnosis as a stigmatic 'label', when most late-diagnosed adult autistics view it as a revelation. Perhaps you could make it more understandable to your friend by using a physical parallel. Tell them to imagine someone who had limped all their life, been unable to run or play any sports or physical games, without knowing why. Having absolutely no idea why they were as they were. Then they are given a diagnosis, they suddenly know why they have had problems walking and running, wouldn't that be a relief, wouldn't that be a very positive thing to discover?
Martin said:many neurotypical people view an autism diagnosis as a stigmatic 'label', when most late-diagnosed adult autistics view it at a revelation.
Good point, well made.