Published on 12, July, 2020
I’ve had problems with using telephones forever, I get anxiety and just struggle with most phone calls. I’m fine with text messages and emails, I still don’t answer them immediately. I understand the difference with being able to plan replies to texts and emails.
My question is a family member just keeps mentioning how I never answer my phone, “why can’t you answer your phone?” It’s something I struggle to explain, I still don’t fully understand.
Is there a really good link or tube video that will explain the reasons why autistic people struggle so much with telephones? It needs to be in very plain language. I’ve tried to explain to the person but normally just shutdown.
Hi Roy. I completely understand how you feel regarding this. So many people at my school and off my age love talking on the phone...I watch them sometimes envious because they talk smoothly and it clearly doesn't bother them at all. It bothers me massively! I find talking on the phone extremely difficult and stressful...There is so much to think about and consider, so much to prepare for....tho preparation rarely actually helps me. When I answer my phone my mind goes blank and I freeze, no idea what to say or do.
How this affects you and how you feel about phones is validated. Don't ever feel ashamed or embarrassed. It's something most of us can relate to. Until I found out I had autism I thought phone call dread was just a me thing and now I realise it affects us all of all ages.
I've seen a few videos on youtube and this is one of my faves. She gives really good tips on phonecalls and this is quite informative.
youtu.be/BuDHMfpv9j8