He wants to be friends. I don't. Advice please?

I will get my friend to have a word with him. But could do with some advice:

Met someone at a running group last year and we got talking and I said was studying Law. He then said I could help with the issues he's having with the police. I am in no way trained to do this. Nor am I actually aware of the issues.

A few months later, he suggested we meet up for coffee, which I said was ok and gave him my number. He wouldn't stop texting me and leaving me voicemails, despite me asking him 3 times to stop it. He claimed he couldn't help because of his OCD. I then told him we're not meeting up. (partly because of that and because I'd made last minute plans)

I then saw him a few days later and we were with other people and he wouldn't leave me alone. I couldn't really say anything because we were with others.

My friend told me that he was told what was going on and said he's done it to others before.

I was then informed that he'd been sectioned (at one point, he blamed me for his depression and OCD - something he says he's had for years now) and was told if any of us do decide to see him, we shouldn't go on our own. I never went to see him.

He was then released from the hospital and joined up with the running group. He's now acting as though nothing's happened and that we're friends. I don't want to be friends with him. I don't want to be friends with someone who treated me the way he did.

I posted this somewhere else and was told if I'm civil towards him, (which was the plan) he may take it the wrong way and think we're friends.

Advice please?

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  • Thanks. I have been in a similar situation before this year and was told by my parents that someone elses behaviour isn't my fault. But my actions may not have really helped.

    He doesn't know where I live. He's changed his phone number and as far as I'm aware, doesn't currently have my number.

    Whether he's getting help or not, I don't know.

    This friendship appears to be so one sided. It appears that he just wants help and I get nothing in return. Whereas with other friends, we do stuff for each other and seeing them doesn't feel like a chore.

    I think he knows what he's doing and seems to just blaming me when he doesn't get his own way.

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  • Thanks. I have been in a similar situation before this year and was told by my parents that someone elses behaviour isn't my fault. But my actions may not have really helped.

    He doesn't know where I live. He's changed his phone number and as far as I'm aware, doesn't currently have my number.

    Whether he's getting help or not, I don't know.

    This friendship appears to be so one sided. It appears that he just wants help and I get nothing in return. Whereas with other friends, we do stuff for each other and seeing them doesn't feel like a chore.

    I think he knows what he's doing and seems to just blaming me when he doesn't get his own way.

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