Published on 12, July, 2020
I was fired up last night (which continued on to this morning) and decided to type up some apology 'letters' for the friends that I let down and hurt. I just put all my feelings down and didn't let myself get bogged down by grammar and sentence structure in the way I would have done in the past. I've talked about how bad I felt, the things I realise were hurtful to them and how much I want to do better.
I tried to approach it from a perspective of "I'll write this to get my feelings down but I won't send it". Maybe I will one day, but I do fear that it will make things worse.
I reached out to a few a couple months ago but didn't hear back. Probably because the message I wrote was so pathetically vague that it didn't display any actual learning. It was literally me going "I really valued our friendship and would be keen to have a conversation".
For you as an individual, what do you consider to be an apology that you would accept?
I think a good apology is one that doesn't demand that the person receiving should instantly forgive and forget. It's their right to decide how they feel about whatever is being apologised for.
Yeah I agree. I've avoided asking for their forgiveness for that reason, I've simply said there's no pressure for them to respond.
That's really good :)
I agree with this and as you said HM following up at a later point shows sincerity x