Published on 12, July, 2020
When it was first suggested to me that I might be autistic I began watching various autistic influencers on YouTube and read books by similar people.
But one glaring thing stuck out for me, and I’ve just come across another example. Specifically, these influencers without exception seem to be married, be in a relationship, have children.
And yet for me the single most life-ruining aspect of my condition is my utter inability to form relationships. It’s like everyone else has telepathy and I don’t. I thought this was one of the defining characteristics of autism.
So are these high profile authors and videographers representative of autistic people or am I the sad exception?
Amerantin (former member) said:So are these high profile authors and videographers representative of autistic people or am I the sad exception?
i think what happens is the autists who are married and/or have kids are probably in the following categories:
1 - their presentation of autism is not affecting their abilities to communicate with others at a relationship level and this also helps them with presenting well on video (ie a degree of charisma).
2 - their partners have helped them adapt and possibly mask well enough to be able to present on video
3 - Their autistic traits are in very different areas to yours and this enables them to communicate well on video while having a relationship but possibly suffering terribly in other areas.
It seems to be the nature of a spectrum condition that the third point is the most likely,
4 - we marry people who are also autistic/neurodivergent (my case).
How do you even meet them?
Great!
Yes, very much so.
Cool, does writing help you process your thoughts?
I've actually met quite a few friends through blogging, although my wife is the only one I've married!
It's a "processing my thoughts and feelings" type of blog.
That’s so cool! What do you write about in your blog?
It must have been an amazing blog! I can’t even imagine turning an online acquaintance into a real world relationship.
I met my wife through my blog.
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Through our interests
I’d be unlikely to bump into them unless they physically came round to my house and introduced themselves
We attract each other- the AUTdar!