Published on 12, July, 2020
Most of my life i have never been able to recognise when someone likes me, be it male or female, frienship or romanticly. As i have got older i do recognise this better. Also, i never gave marriage a thought. I just didnt think it applied to me. It was never something i considered.
I also didnt know that i was good at anything. I have always given 150%. This of course has been exhausting. If i couldnt do it well, then i wouldnt want to do it.
Only in recent years have i recognised these traits. Nothing has changed, except i understand myself better.
Are these typical traits for autistic people? X
Tulip52 said:Most of my life i have never been able to recognise when someone likes me
A quick study of body language will give you the skills to spot the tell tale signs - it is pretty simple and easy to learn.
There is a decent guide here:
https://www.verywellmind.com/understand-body-language-and-facial-expressions-4147228
A lack of knowledge on this is quite common for autists, but is easily remedied.
Tulip52 said:I also didnt know that i was good at anything
Can you explain what you mean by this please? Do you mean good like being good at solving crossword puzzles, good at planning tasks, good at socialising etc?
Hi
Good at the jobs that i have had in particular. I just had to make sure i did it properly, but still never really recognised it enough to feel proud or confident. Baking cakes, lovely cakes, people have complimented on, but i feel nothing. If that makes sense?
Yes, but I got into trouble years ago (I was about twenty and didn't know I was autistic) thinking I had consciously read body language correctly when I had not. I think parts of body language are subjective and hard to learn, especially around learning sexual interest signals; the same signal can have multiple causes.