Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello,
My entire life I have struggled with friendships especially making and maintaining them, I never know what I am do wrong to lose them but whenever it does I always get really sad. Currently, I have no friends and it has been making me really low and I've been having a lot of depressive episodes at the moment. My mum suggested that I write on here for advice. So if anyone has advice on making friends that would be great.
I saw people on the community page asking for penpals and I thought I would give that a go if anyone is interested here's some information:
Hello, my name is Libby. I am a 23 year old girl from the UK. My hobbies include: reading, painting my nails (if that counts) and doing anything and everything creative. I'm also into anything "nerdy" like Marvel, Star Wars, comics, anything like that. So if I can sound kind of interesting say you're interested in the comments and I'll probably send you a message or something!
Hopefully that info gave some of you an idea of what I'm like. Anyone can "sign up" regardless of age, gender and place in the world. I don't know how we'll write to each other just yet. We could write on here or email or even write physical letters!
Like I said, just leave me a comment if you're interested (or have any advice) and let's start talking!
BYE!!
In terms of advice, I'll try and give something you can take away with you.
It's hard because I suppose we can be too trusting and that gets us into uncomfortable situations. As a result we may not realise if a situation is actually comfortable and we are able to let our guard down.
In terms of what worked for me, I tended to connect with people online. Starting with common interests is a start (I'm into pop music and British comedy) and then it's gauging whether the two of you gel.
If it's right, having a conversation with that person shouldn't be difficult nor should it drain you. I would encourage you to be open although I have struggled myself with oversharing and coming on too strong. I mention I'm autistic fairly early on (if they don't know already) as a means of managing expectations.
As long as you're clearly aware of what you want out of friendship, I think you're on the right track.