Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello everyone.
Something I am really struggling with understanding advice and help from friends/family. People like to express their ways of dealing with the problems I have like they are an easy task.
Specifically dealing with social paralysis, and not being able to stop over thinking before reaching out thus leading to avoidance.
It seems to be that the done thing to be "mindful" and "exercise".
I am aware that one could make adjustments to adopt these habits.
What adjustments, protocols and tools do you guys use when dealing specifically with social paralysis, and not being able to stop over thinking before reaching out thus leading to avoidance.
Hi Inkcircuit,
Something I find useful while reaching out to people is saying exactly what I am thinking.
For instance today my friend and I were texting but I know she has a new baby so she kind of has her hands full, right? I was about to change the subject but first asked "I feel like I'm taking up too much of your time do you still have time to chat?" this made a very clear way for her to say "actually I'm busy" or "sure go on and talk to me".
If you reach out to someone, you aren't demanding their attention, they can respond to you whenever they have free time! If you've reached out, the ball is in their court. Just send a little text, or make a little call and see what people are thinking. They might be looking forward to hearing from you!
That's good advice.