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Life struggle

Yoya

Hi I'm an Autistic adult I currently work 30hrs per week, I've never been able to maintain and job for longer than 4 years normal is 2/3 years.  I burn myself out and have to find a new job. 

It just all gets too much I can't cope my I have taken sickleave on my 3rd week and I really don't think I can go back. I have been looking for alternative employment but there's nothing going except care work which I have done but find deeply overwhelming.

Added to this I look after my Mum whohas advanced alzheimers. Everything has just gotten too much for me however I couldn't put mum into a home I wouldn't cope with that. 

Any advice

Yvone 

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  • Welcome to the community.

    You have my sympathy. I care for my elderly mum too and I appreciate how tough and demanding it can be. I couldn't even imagine being able to work all those hours as well.

    You need to take care of yourself and try to avoid a continual burnout cycle. Every time you burnout it becomes harder to come back from than the previous one. Any new job comes with lots of change and uncertainty, which we autists tend not to react well to. When you are already at breaking point it's probably not a good idea to take on something you have found too overwhelming in the past.

    As stated carers allowance is an option, but at something like £70 a week it's certainly not going to replace the salary from your job.

  • in reply to Autonomistic

    Thank you yes it is full-time caring.

    Financially giving up my job is not an option but the strain of balancing both responsibilities is taking a major toll.

    I know I'm just one of a nation of carers looking after family members but its a hard job which I feel privileged to help her. 

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