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Performance Review at work. The very thought of it is stressing me out. Any Tips

Why is this so scary

Hi, this is my first time posting so I apologise If I get the tone wrong on this one

I am being asked to write my objectives at work then go and have my half year review to talk about them. No Big Deal!

So why on earth am I so stressed about it. It feels like I have to write my own exam questions, answer them, then get judged on both the question I wrote and my answer to it.

I'm just expected to know how to do this because I've been given a powerpoint slide on SMART objectives

For context I dropped out of Uni and everything since, It the question needs answering in words and sentences, you can generally count me out.

Does this stuff trigger anybody else or is it just me?

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  • I relate to this so much. Performance reviews or any sort of typical meeting like them at work create so much stress for me. Wish I could give advice about this but sadly it’s still a big stressor for me. I always just feel like I’m in trouble or something daft like that.

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  • I relate to this so much. Performance reviews or any sort of typical meeting like them at work create so much stress for me. Wish I could give advice about this but sadly it’s still a big stressor for me. I always just feel like I’m in trouble or something daft like that.

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  • in reply to Wib

    Hi Wib

    Yes I worry the review can be loaded by your line manager before you attend, depending if they have an agenda, they could find faults and focus on them e.g. what you haven't done, rather than what you have. 

    30 years ago , my first job after uni, I remember a manager taking a folder into his appraisal with the head of the department, we got on, and as advice ahead of my first annual review, he told me to print off any emails with positive feedback, he then said he would counter act his usual "sh*t sandwich" appraisal by pulling out a print-out for each negative he was pulled up for.

    I've regularly found my worries on the weeks that run-up to my review actually never materialized.  Why I can't still approach them without this ?, I will raise at my next therapy session.