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why is autism so isolating

ElliottGoomba
over 1 year ago

ive noticed as an adult that i am extemly isolated and lonely. i have my girlfriend (also adhd) but no matter how hard i try at work to actually be friends, they will always just be co workers. my therapist doesnt know how to help me make friends and online chat rooms have been no help. My girlfriend does not have this stuggle. she is in bands, she is in school and works, and she has friends in all of them. is it just me? why cant i make friends. i am struggling and i am alone. i need help. i struggle with suicidal idiations and the more alone i feel every day the more it worsens, i had a friend and he ghosted me after 5 years. i dont know what to do, any advice aprriceated

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  • over 1 year ago
    ElliottGoomba said:
    ive noticed as an adult that i am extemly isolated and lonely

    I like your handle. "Goombah" takes me back to my youth brought up on the streets of Brooklyn where I often heard the greeting "Heyyy Goombah" shouted out by an italian guy to another.  

    I've spent a sad lifetime in isolation even while surrounded by people. I'm usually ignored or snubbed because I am misunderstood in my reactions (or lack of input or reaction) as they are usually misinterpreted. as some form of snobbery. My wife's life has been ruined on account of me. She became a very fearful woman suffering with agoraphobia. I'm not a bully nor have I ever threatened her. I live with that burden as I struggle with displays of affection which probably caused her condition.  We have been together 40+ years. I don't know why she has put up with me. I too have no friends which is why I dip in and out of this forum. I was diagnosed with ASD at age 76

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  • over 1 year ago
    ElliottGoomba said:
    ive noticed as an adult that i am extemly isolated and lonely

    I like your handle. "Goombah" takes me back to my youth brought up on the streets of Brooklyn where I often heard the greeting "Heyyy Goombah" shouted out by an italian guy to another.  

    I've spent a sad lifetime in isolation even while surrounded by people. I'm usually ignored or snubbed because I am misunderstood in my reactions (or lack of input or reaction) as they are usually misinterpreted. as some form of snobbery. My wife's life has been ruined on account of me. She became a very fearful woman suffering with agoraphobia. I'm not a bully nor have I ever threatened her. I live with that burden as I struggle with displays of affection which probably caused her condition.  We have been together 40+ years. I don't know why she has put up with me. I too have no friends which is why I dip in and out of this forum. I was diagnosed with ASD at age 76

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  • over 1 year ago in reply to NAS86592
    NAS86592 said:
    My wife's life has been ruined on account of me. She became a very fearful woman suffering with agoraphobia. I'm not a bully nor have I ever threatened her. I live with that burden as I struggle with displays of affection which probably caused her condition.

    Has she actually said that or are you being overly harsh on yourself?

    I have a tendency towards agoraphobia myself and it is a very debilitating condition I wouldn't wish on anyone. However I wouldn't blame it on anyone. The cause is probably very deep rooted in childhood, maybe even inherited. I know my mum suffered from it very badly throughout my childhood.

    Best wishes to your wife in her struggles. I do try and make an effort to go out every day but it never seems to get any easier.