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Autist

I have had enough. I just want to die I can't talk to peopele I cant help anyone or talk to anyone without making it worse and then everyone just hates me because I say something that upsets this one person I didnt even mean to upset. I just want to kill myself. I cant talk to anyone. Anything I say is always wrong and upsets people and I dont want to uspet anyone so I should just die.

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  • We do need guidelines for living with autism. Unfortunately it doesn't seem to have that high a priority.

    We know that, if you have difficulty communicating, you cannot gauge other people's reactions properly. You don't get the feedback NTs get. Therefore you have to gauge the impact of what you say or do in isolation - in your head.

    That means you have to process the puzzle by working out the possibilities, which means working out a whole array of outcomes, realistic or otherwise, which lends itself to spiralling anxiety, and therefore acute anxiety and depression.

    Also by not connecting properly we don't acquire over time the social conditioning that determines what is acceptable, so we may be more likely to say something that agitates or offends NTs.

    So Autist's current difficulty is an inevitable outcome of being on the autistic spectrum. And we can all end up there.

    Yet this has been known about for four decades now and we still don't have anything constructive to offer people caught up like this.

    There are lots of people (who honestly have no real understanding of the problems) offering all kinds of indequately tested "cures".  But it doesn't seem worth any money working out how to help people cope with this lack of connectivity in their daily lives.

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  • We do need guidelines for living with autism. Unfortunately it doesn't seem to have that high a priority.

    We know that, if you have difficulty communicating, you cannot gauge other people's reactions properly. You don't get the feedback NTs get. Therefore you have to gauge the impact of what you say or do in isolation - in your head.

    That means you have to process the puzzle by working out the possibilities, which means working out a whole array of outcomes, realistic or otherwise, which lends itself to spiralling anxiety, and therefore acute anxiety and depression.

    Also by not connecting properly we don't acquire over time the social conditioning that determines what is acceptable, so we may be more likely to say something that agitates or offends NTs.

    So Autist's current difficulty is an inevitable outcome of being on the autistic spectrum. And we can all end up there.

    Yet this has been known about for four decades now and we still don't have anything constructive to offer people caught up like this.

    There are lots of people (who honestly have no real understanding of the problems) offering all kinds of indequately tested "cures".  But it doesn't seem worth any money working out how to help people cope with this lack of connectivity in their daily lives.

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