Published on 12, July, 2020
I'm going to see this girl that I like next month (August)
The dates I'm going are 2 August (Arts, Crafts & Pizza Making), 9 August (Fun in the Park), 17 August (Catchphrase Game Show), and 24 August (Adventure Island).
However she doesn't want a romantic relationship and I need to stay away from her.
What should I do?
You’re forgetting the Spice Girls again. And Girls Aloud. In this world one constant almost no one wants to be thought of as old.
it’s why ‘the boys’ are out for a boys night out. And the girls are on their way to the girls night out.
it’s like in Japan where people casually call each other big sister or auntie. No one wants to be called auntie. Not even if you’re 30-40 years old.
If I was you I would cancel the dates, you obviously want something she can't give to you. It's not fair on either of you if you go into it the way you are. There are plenty of other women out there good luck!
I don't know how old you are John, but I'm assuming this person in question is quite young, since you have called her a 'girl' not a woman.
It's very important to learn to understand when someone is laying down a boundary and respect what they have said. If she says she needs you to stay away from her that is what you need to do. Trying to talk to her or going close to her will be breaching her boundaries and might make her feel unsafe.
It isn't fair to call her annoying when it sounds like she's done nothing wrong.
Shardovan said:I have the strongest sense of deja vu here
That will be because the same has been posted before:
https://community.autism.org.uk/f/adults-on-the-autistic-spectrum/32622/this-annoying-girl
If she does not want a romantic relationship then leave her be.
Also you have titled this post as "Annoying Girl" so since she is annoying to you, you are best to move on from this. And therefore both of you will not be stressed.
Just enjoy the activities instead and make it a nice stress free time, doing some activities and try not to focus your mind on this girl.
Best to respect her wishes.
I think you have answered your own question.If you want more,do yourself a favour and give it a miss.
I have the strongest sense of deja vu here. Wasn't there a thread already where people sought clarification on the crucial context of that penultimate sentence?
these sound like group events? I'd go and just not talk to her. Just because you both go you don't need to talk.
https://community.autism.org.uk/f/adults-on-the-autistic-spectrum/31207/this-girl-from-youth-club
community.autism.org.uk/.../my-crush-or-friend