Published on 12, July, 2020
Not sure if anyone has experienced this, but personally I’ve been accused of exaggerating or overreacting to a problem that seems justified in my view. I think people don’t pay attention to the whole story and make assumptions about a certain background as if it is normal. Unfortunately they cannot speak for all of us as one’s experience may completely differ from another’s.
I ain’t got much else to say, so I’ll just leave it here.
I could be brief in my posts, if they bother me so long let me know and I will adapt immediately. I am reading you now after months. I was writing to an Aspie friend from a US state. Now he's on vacation and maybe he's struggling to write. <> He lived for over 70 years without knowing he was. The generation gap is remarkable. But his mind is so full of ideas. I wasn't empathetic towards him before. at least: rationally yes. I am alexithymic and have adhd. I say two things among many and as a friend of mine wrote some time ago. being an Aspie is not cool. <> So: there would be a zillion things to write on this topic. Honestly I don't want to be NT at all. It's okay how they are (we are). A diagnosis is a minimum starting point. If it were a train it would be the Orient Express.
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There are many stations between the starting point and the infinite travel point. So, always if I can, a piece of advice is to think of small approaches. In a US forum I wrote as a presentation Meet An Alien. Then the post that I thought would end immediately went on for many weeks. <> There is a lack of interest from NTs (the normal ones which would be 90% of the world population, we belong to various bands of neuroatypicality. The most extreme is that Asperger's now a subcategory of HFA in a handbook written by NTs about us too! Which is very strange, think about it ... we should be the way they want us. I don't even think about it. I'm fine with different people. Because they are important, they are enriching in a truly stereotyped society. *Small personal amends: I too wrote stereotypes. Because basically we are unreadable to them, as much as they are to us. <> An Asperger (there are I swear: we are different from the HFA even if very similar in some things, but the DSM manual is very old now, you will see the next one, we will become Neandhertalians! *In any case, friendships are essential. Which doesn't mean close association, but the purity of friendship. The quality. If I have a friend who is different from me, I accept it. It's fine as it is. I wouldn't want it to adjust to my normal: it would never succeed! One hundred years of solitude also in the ICD and then in the DSM. We are alone. But *We are alone (Stella)