Published on 12, July, 2020
I'm married to this person for over a decade, he is autistic, he spend his time talking to himself instead of talking to me, we don't have children because he never wanted children, but I did, now that I am 41 years old I regret bitterly I listened to him and now we don't have children. I feel like is getting more and more distant towards me. We don't make love. He just want to go out with other people. When I try to have a conversation with him, he just keeps shouting at me and getting aggressive.
I feel like I am alone in this marriage. All I I do is crying, I don't care if my husband is autistic, I just want him to love me as much as I love him.
Anybody like me I would like to know please??
I need advice please.
Communication is key, not only from him but between you both, so make sure you regularly share. Tell him how you feel
I would also say that children would only amplify this problem. A distant partner would likely be a distant dad, so you would be parenting more in that scenario. So I think that's not a guarantee of the grass is green with children.
Is there a way to bridge the gap? It isn't the same, but many of us on the spectrum love animals, could caring for a dog or cat being you some sense of parental responsibility and also bring him out of his internal world a little? A bonding exercise?
Sending you my best Keep talking, he will be listening even if it doesn't always come across that way
JT said:I would also say that children would only amplify this problem. A distant partner would likely be a distant dad, so you would be parenting more in that scenario. So I think that's not a guarantee of the grass is green with children.
I agree people who try to fix relationships that are in a bad place already by having kids might as well be trying to put out a fire by pouring petrol on it.