Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi,
I found it a little easier to make friends at school and university. But now as an Adult (23 years old), I am looking to make friends with people who are similar to me and how to enjoy deeper conversation. And I am starting to feel like as an Adult it's harder to do that. I don't know how or where to start. It feels like I missed my chance back in school and now I am stuck with my current situation.
Any advice? How do you feel about it? As an Autistic Adult.
I just never left the university clubs; that worked for me for a long time. Now far after that phase of my life I have no idea. There are no non-student ‘adult’ clubs for what I want to do or for my interests.
I even tried being the one to start the clubs and that was a complete failure. in fact repeated failures cause I tried repeated times.
if you figure it out remember to tell me.
I added a part 2 to my reply for you if that helps, since it helps to expand the field as folk say.
I already attempted to take your suggestion in a sense. I looked at things I was particularly interested in and made a list of things that were tangently kind of associated with them. Then I looked in the local area to see if anything was going on. Only thing I found was a Lolita fashion meet up.
and while I’m not saying that I don’t have the confidence to rock crinoline dresses in a distinctive pseudo Victoria Japanese style. I’m not convinced I would be welcome among a bunch of young women spending a weekend out in frilly dresses. Anyway it’s incredibly expensive and frankly they just don’t make anything even remotely in a plus size.
so yeah that’s a bit of a bust. I did try a K-pop club night early this year. But as far as I know they haven’t done another and even if I did I wouldn’t have the money to go. It was a lot of fun but I didn’t really make any friends. It was almost exclusively populated by young women again. I mean seriously the woman to man ratio must’ve been something like 5 to one. Not that I was complaining. But I don’t think it’s necessarily conducive to making an introduction. Maybe if I’d been a regular and my face started to be recognised.
That's a shame Peter, hopefully you can still find something to join and something regular and more appropriate given the gender dynamics too. I'm aware a lot of groups are member funded and money is tight for everyone right now which is why a lot of new ones fail to last but there may still be something you can join.