Published on 12, July, 2020
because of the arguments, why not hibernate?
I have done this before.
You can change your name to 'hibernating'.
It's good psychologically because it stops me from posting and indicates to others that you are having a break.
Also, you can choose to still PM (which I do) which isolates you less.
Roy has chosen to do this yesterday.
I've been told by one person that someone they knew was thinking of joining but didn't because of the disagreements, others post far less, others join and then stay a short while.
I was sad to read Billy87 s post today.
To the new people here: it's not always like this and only certain subjects are incendiary so if you can manage to avoid reading them, that would help.
I am guilty of having joined into arguments because I also feel passionately about certain subjects and I expect I will occasionally still make my point.
However, I think restraint here is the key and personal insults should never be acceptable.
I dearly hope that this thread doesn't go the same way as my 'arguments' thread and become one almightly row ...
Today I'm considering whether to leave the forum.
When I was 1st diagnosed late in life (60) a year and a few months ago, this forum was a Godsend.
A really important place where I could learn and be supported and equally, give support to others.
At its best it's superb.
However, I do personally have difficulty when threads are made that offend me and I know others do too.
It isn't so simple as just not responding when these things act as a trigger for past traumas and fights you've had.
I've had quite a few fights in my life that have been long and hard and inequality bothers me - a lot.
There have been various threads and postings that simply do offend - including one with views pertaining to women set in aspic.
I do think that more could be done here with moderation, including an LGBTQ+ section as those types of threads have ended up locked due to conflict and also another section, as I suggested before, where other controversial ones could sit and people could try to avoid them.
Hopefully then those boundaries could be respected by others.
If I go, I just want to say a huge thanks to those friends I've made and for the huge fun that's been had here.
Also, if I do, I will post here to say and if people would like my private email address, I'll supply by PM.
I miss those that have already left - a lot
I hope everyone has a good, trauma free Sunday
I hope you follow your own advice and decide to hibernate rather than leave. You will be missed if you leave.
A few days or weeks in the hedgehog house sounds perfect. At least it will be a less prickly environment than here!
Autonomistic said:At least it will be a less prickly environment than here!
That's a very good point!
Thank you.
I'm in 'semi' hibernating mode now.
There are too many good souls here to leave behind, and that's something we need to remind ourselves of from time to time, you very much being one of them.
Roy said:A heading is given, “ A trigger warning,” a subject is then given, it may be something like sexual abuse. It is then up to the reader to open the post or not. I wonder if that would help, it’s then not censoring posts but just giving a choice.
I think this is a great idea!