Published on 12, July, 2020
I don't know about others, but I'm getting a little concerned that the arguments will put off new members.
Quite often people join and then disappear quite quickly.
I've been involved in these myself on occasion, so I'm not innocent.
However, maybe the mods could create a section where these potentially contentious threads could be placed that had a heading like NSFW (a new one on me but it seems to be well known).
If a seemingly innocuous thread then turns into a constant argument, perhaps it could be moved to there.
It's sometimes interraction between older males and older females (or non binary etc) and comes down to very different relationship/*ex points of view but can of course stem from any subject and any set of contributors.
I think it happens more often than it once did, and I've not been here a year yet.
This is my only social media ever. Here, with other AS(not a)D
people I feel safe. Even when there are arguments. I find those interesting
too and enjoy puzzling out just what is the bother for the person personally
and try to help.
I generally have trouble accessing my own emotional/reactionary buttons and
can't tell when others are trying to push them. it's one of the things that NTs
sometimes get very upset with me about. I mostly take what people say at
face value, Not really seeing the rhetoric or the intended goad and seeing
just the statement's premise, as puzzling as that may sometimes seem to me,
but I like puzzles. This does not include direct personal attacks.
I cherish this place, warts 'n all.
Please don't leave the forum.
If there is a thread with some button pushing just stop feeding it.
Stop reading. Find another more uplifting thread.
Debbie's creative thread is wonderful, for example.
Remember that first nations adage;
the wolf you feed is the one that thrives. Choose wisely.