Published on 12, July, 2020
I don't know about others, but I'm getting a little concerned that the arguments will put off new members.
Quite often people join and then disappear quite quickly.
I've been involved in these myself on occasion, so I'm not innocent.
However, maybe the mods could create a section where these potentially contentious threads could be placed that had a heading like NSFW (a new one on me but it seems to be well known).
If a seemingly innocuous thread then turns into a constant argument, perhaps it could be moved to there.
It's sometimes interraction between older males and older females (or non binary etc) and comes down to very different relationship/*ex points of view but can of course stem from any subject and any set of contributors.
I think it happens more often than it once did, and I've not been here a year yet.
I've only just joined but I was in two minds about whether to stay or not because the first post I read had just been locked by one of the site Mods, who is also a new moderator I have since found out.
It's a real put off when you see arguments and hostility online especially if you're trying to escape those things in your actual day to day life.
I'm hoping though this isn't a frequent thing happening here otherwise I will probably leave because I get enough drama in my life without it happening here as well.
I appreciate your open comment and your willingness to share your thoughts and concerns as a newer member.
I have seen that there can be moments on this forum where members disagree and debate. I have also seen moments where people end up clearly arguing. People cannot always share the same opinions and sometimes that can come out wrong or in a heated way. I think it can be due to the imperfect nature of words and the interpretation of said words sometimes. It of course can also be because simply people disagree. Some of what is argued about is very emotionally charged stuff and can be tricky to navigate, but I think we just need to remember that we are in charge of what we involve ourselves in. It is possible to also notice how many people do not get involved in disagreements and choose to be involved in the community in different ways and sometimes looking for that can help to remove the illusion that this is a hostile place (in moments where it seems like that).
For me the thing that stands out is the community that come together to reassure and relate to one another in ways that many of us have been unable to do until finding this place. I will forever be grateful for that moment where I was first accepted here and realised that my experiences were shared and that I wasn’t alone.
Sometimes it feels like there are a lot of arguments, and to be honest if someone were to look they’d find them, but the wonderful stuff that happens in between can often can be overlooked.
This is a good place full of good and well meaning people. Sometimes it goes wrong, and sometimes it can be a sanctuary. What I’m trying to say is, this can be a great place, but is also a human place so therefore can be imperfect. Hopefully my well meaning intent is picked up here.
Some members are no longer with us, but their light and warmth needs to continue on. They bought genuine happiness to many of us here. That’s what I’m hoping to get across
Well said. There have been many nice members who live on in the spirit and members of this forum.
Stick around Blondie it is a good community and one of the best supports if you have autism. There are more good members than bad here.